Mizzou Recruitment

[Tigeralum]

I wish I would have discovered this forum before yesterday. I'm amazed at the support and wonderful advice I've read throughout the Mizzou Recruitment thread! My daughter participated in Mizzou's formal rush as a freshman this year. She released herself from rush on that Friday after the second round of cuts. The first round only two houses cut her so we were off to a great start. I'll never forget that Friday morning when I got a call from her saying only 1 house out of 7 invited her back. She was so devastated we had to send my in-laws from St.Louis to get her. We currently live in the North Dallas, TX area. She begged us to fly her home but everyone told me that was a big "NO". My in-laws took her to STL for the weekend. She went back to Mizzou but it's been 3 weeks and she has still not emotionally recovered from her rush experience.
We had all the recs. I also attended Mizzou and was in a house so she was a legacy. She knew going in there weren't any promises because she was a legacy. I'm still struggling with my feelings about my house cutting her. She only had a 3.466 high school gpa but all of her classes were IB or AP. I'm not sure if that is even considered. Her ACT was an average score 25. Where she truly shined was her community service and philanthropy work. She is outgoing and has a bubbly personality.
She keeps asking me "What went wrong mom?". It breaks my heart that she is still dwelling on what went wrong. Of course we will never know but we are guessing maybe grades were a factor. I'm trying to be as supportive and encouraging as possible. She did sign up for informal but I'm aware the houses that participate are unknown at the moment.
My daughter has made a lot of friends but they are all in sororities and she gets so sad when they come back to the dorm from chapter events with Greek gifts and decorations. These are the hardest moments for her.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by Tigeralum

I wish I would have discovered this forum before yesterday. I'm amazed at the support and wonderful advice I've read throughout the Mizzou Recruitment thread! My daughter participated in Mizzou's formal rush as a freshman this year. She released herself from rush on that Friday after the second round of cuts. The first round only two houses cut her so we were off to a great start. I'll never forget that Friday morning when I got a call from her saying only 1 house out of 7 invited her back. She was so devastated we had to send my in-laws from St.Louis to get her. We currently live in the North Dallas, TX area. She begged us to fly her home but everyone told me that was a big "NO". My in-laws took her to STL for the weekend. She went back to Mizzou but it's been 3 weeks and she has still not emotionally recovered from her rush experience.
We had all the recs. I also attended Mizzou and was in a house so she was a legacy. She knew going in there weren't any promises because she was a legacy. I'm still struggling with my feelings about my house cutting her. She only had a 3.466 high school gpa but all of her classes were IB or AP. I'm not sure if that is even considered. Her ACT was an average score 25. Where she truly shined was her community service and philanthropy work. She is outgoing and has a bubbly personality.
She keeps asking me "What went wrong mom?". It breaks my heart that she is still dwelling on what went wrong. Of course we will never know but we are guessing maybe grades were a factor. I'm trying to be as supportive and encouraging as possible. She did sign up for informal but I'm aware the houses that participate are unknown at the moment.
My daughter has made a lot of friends but they are all in sororities and she gets so sad when they come back to the dorm from chapter events with Greek gifts and decorations. These are the hardest moments for her.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

As far as what went wrong...it's a big recruitment. There is definitely such a thing as slipping through the cracks, especially for an out of state PNM.

[33girl]

Hanging around with only sorority women is not going to help right now. I'm not saying dump them as friends - she shows great maturity and class in NOT doing that - but it's kind of like hanging out with all newlyweds right after you go through a breakup. She needs to branch out and make some additional friends that will help her see things from a different AND POSITIVE vantage point.

[MIZparent]

Originally Posted by Tigeralum

I wish I would have discovered this forum before yesterday. I'm amazed at the support and wonderful advice I've read throughout the Mizzou Recruitment thread! My daughter participated in Mizzou's formal rush as a freshman this year. She released herself from rush on that Friday after the second round of cuts. The first round only two houses cut her so we were off to a great start. I'll never forget that Friday morning when I got a call from her saying only 1 house out of 7 invited her back. She was so devastated we had to send my in-laws from St.Louis to get her. We currently live in the North Dallas, TX area. She begged us to fly her home but everyone told me that was a big "NO". My in-laws took her to STL for the weekend. She went back to Mizzou but it's been 3 weeks and she has still not emotionally recovered from her rush experience.
We had all the recs. I also attended Mizzou and was in a house so she was a legacy. She knew going in there weren't any promises because she was a legacy. I'm still struggling with my feelings about my house cutting her. She only had a 3.466 high school gpa but all of her classes were IB or AP. I'm not sure if that is even considered. Her ACT was an average score 25. Where she truly shined was her community service and philanthropy work. She is outgoing and has a bubbly personality.
She keeps asking me "What went wrong mom?". It breaks my heart that she is still dwelling on what went wrong. Of course we will never know but we are guessing maybe grades were a factor. I'm trying to be as supportive and encouraging as possible. She did sign up for informal but I'm aware the houses that participate are unknown at the moment.
My daughter has made a lot of friends but they are all in sororities and she gets so sad when they come back to the dorm from chapter events with Greek gifts and decorations. These are the hardest moments for her.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

Mizzou PHA did say 3.0-3.499 was the "yellow light" zone, and PNM's were encouraged to have a 3.5 GPA before recruitment. COB is still an option, especially if she earns a strong GPA this semester.

I do have a question. You say she was only released by two chapters after Round 1, and only one out of those seven invited her back after Round 2. At Mizzou, PNM's may visit up to 11 chapters during the second round. There are 15 chapters at Mizzou, so if she only had seven invitations for Round 2, that would mean eight houses released her after Round 1, not two houses. When your daughter is referring to total invitations and being released by chapters, is she talking about all houses, or just the ones she would be interested in pledging?

[AZTheta]

Originally Posted by MIZparent

Mizzou PHA did say 3.0-3.499 was the "yellow light" zone, and PNM's were encouraged to have a 3.5 GPA before recruitment. COB is still an option, especially if she earns a strong GPA this semester.

I do have a question. You say she was only released by two chapters after Round 1, and only one out of those seven invited her back after Round 2. At Mizzou, PNM's may visit up to 11 chapters during the second round. There are 15 chapters at Mizzou, so if she only had seven invitations for Round 2, that would mean eight houses released her after Round 1, not two houses. When your daughter is referring to total invitations and being released by chapters, is she talking about all houses, or just the ones she would be interested in pledging?

At this point, I don't see that as relevant or helpful to this parent. You're pointing out the obvious; we can all do the math. We can Monday Morning Quarterback, and perform autopsies, but at the end of the day it's finished for this PNM. The PNM is asking her mother "what went wrong?" and since NONE of us were in the chapters during Membership Selection (which is private) we can't answer that question.

[Momoftiger]

Originally Posted by Tigeralum

I wish I would have discovered this forum before yesterday. I'm amazed at the support and wonderful advice I've read throughout the Mizzou Recruitment thread! My daughter participated in Mizzou's formal rush as a freshman this year. She released herself from rush on that Friday after the second round of cuts. The first round only two houses cut her so we were off to a great start. I'll never forget that Friday morning when I got a call from her saying only 1 house out of 7 invited her back. She was so devastated we had to send my in-laws from St.Louis to get her. We currently live in the North Dallas, TX area. She begged us to fly her home but everyone told me that was a big "NO". My in-laws took her to STL for the weekend. She went back to Mizzou but it's been 3 weeks and she has still not emotionally recovered from her rush experience.
We had all the recs. I also attended Mizzou and was in a house so she was a legacy. She knew going in there weren't any promises because she was a legacy. I'm still struggling with my feelings about my house cutting her. She only had a 3.466 high school gpa but all of her classes were IB or AP. I'm not sure if that is even considered. Her ACT was an average score 25. Where she truly shined was her community service and philanthropy work. She is outgoing and has a bubbly personality.
She keeps asking me "What went wrong mom?". It breaks my heart that she is still dwelling on what went wrong. Of course we will never know but we are guessing maybe grades were a factor. I'm trying to be as supportive and encouraging as possible. She did sign up for informal but I'm aware the houses that participate are unknown at the moment.
My daughter has made a lot of friends but they are all in sororities and she gets so sad when they come back to the dorm from chapter events with Greek gifts and decorations. These are the hardest moments for her.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

I have missed these recent posts. All of the spam prevented me from noticing any activity on this thread. All I can say is I am so sorry to hear that your daughter had this experience (and you as well because as moms, we feel their pain too). I hear that this was not uncommon-- happening to way too many girls. My daughter's roommate had such a similar experience I had to double check that you were not from the same hometown. I know her roommate is trying to get involved in other campus activities right now which is helping. I hope your daughter finds her niche while she is waiting on informal rush to start. 💜