Married in a sorority if already an active?

[DubaiSis]

I'll tell you the only thing more stressful than the first year of marriage is the last year of marriage. If you really must get married before you graduate from college then I would say all of your other priorities have to go way down the list, and that's not just the sorority. Stick with your plan if you feel you must but realize parts of your life will suffer. I'll guarantee it.

I would get extensive counseling before the wedding to hammer out division of labor, your social calendars, mutual and exclusive obligations, etc. It can all be fine as long as you both understand that you probably won't see much of each other until you graduate. And you maintaining "wifely duties" like dinner and laundry for both of you isn't gonna happen.

[aephi alum]

I got engaged during the spring semester of my senior year. It's not quite the same as getting married ... no commitment on paper, and we weren't living together at the time. But I did have to explain to my fiancé that I would be going to a mixer or two, as I was in a small chapter and we needed max attendance, but I would be wearing my engagement ring, so the fraternity members knew I was off limits from a romantic or sexual perspective. I viewed it as getting to spend time with my sisters and possibly making a friend or three in the fraternity in question. He was less than amused, but he understood. He had his own activities too - he's a Mason, and their meetings aren't exactly open to women, any more than AEPhi's chapter meetings are open to men.

Being in a serious relationship while being an active GLO member is doable so long as you budget your time. Studies first, then everything else - GLO, other activities, work (if applicable), and your relationship.

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

And you maintaining "wifely duties" like dinner and laundry for both of you isn't gonna happen.

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I have to bristle at the term "wifely duties". Just because you don't have a penis doesn't mean you have to do all the cooking and cleaning. This isn't the 1950s. A man should be able to cook at least a simple meal and put on a load of laundry, just as a woman should be able to pump her own gas and write a check and make at least simple repairs around the house. Spouses are a team and need to act accordingly. If there's a full chapter meeting and dinner every Sunday, the sorority member's spouse should be able to fend for themselves for dinner. (For crying out loud, my father - widowed 2+ years after being married for 48 years during which his wife did all the cooking - can prepare several simple, nutritious meals.)
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