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Originally Posted by NorthernMom
It's also important not to take it personally. We are not from the area, and my sorority experience was light years from this. We had done some homework - gotten recs to most of the houses and read up a bit on SEC recruitment. But I think we were unprepared in some ways for just how resume driven recruitment really is. My daughter was very involved in a sport - but it was outside of her high school - because it was much more competitive at that level. However, because she spent most of her free time in that sport - and had to get to practices at a distance right after school - she didn't really participate in anything at her school. On paper, she looked pretty one dimensional. And she was not an academic standout in HS, though much better in college. So after the first round when she was cut pretty heavily, she was upset. She didn't understand why ABC that she loved so much, and really clicked with the girl she talked to, had cut her. She struggled to figure out what she was doing wrong? I wondered what was going wrong? We thought perhaps it related to being a transfer, and perhaps some of it did, but I think the reality was that her "resume" just didn't seem that impressive. Once you realize that, it seems less "personal".
There are girls with amazing resumes, and your girls may be among them. But if they experience cuts - it may be because on paper, they were not exactly what the chapter was looking for....not because they didn't like them personally in some way.
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Once again am in total agreement with Northernmom--and even the girls who look amazing "on paper" can experience what seem to be inexplicable cuts (at least from their perspective). It's impossible to know for sure why anyone gets invited back or released from a particular house so there's no point on dwelling on it. It's normal to feel slighted and hurt and confused, and then the girls have to find a way to shake it off and move on, focusing on the houses where they will be returning.
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