Help Phrasing a Question

[als463]

I want to echo what Carnation said. Also, I am willing to bet that if your recommenders noted you will be in the Honors College, as I certainly do for the recommendations I write, you will most likely get paired with someone who is also in the Honors College. Even if you aren't, you can ask if any of the sisters in that chapter are in the Honors College. I don't think that would be tacky to ask. If you go in and ask it by prefacing that you are obviously concerned about academics and want to be with other girls who are "like minded" as you regarding their studies, you may come off as really pretentious. Don't go in there thinking you are smarter or better than the actives. You may find that there are sisters in every chapter at A&M who are campus leaders and scholars. Don't let that be the main thing on your mind. Sorority membership gives back what you put in. Even if you are the only Honors College sister in the chapter, that doesn't mean you can't form study groups with members of other sororities/ fraternities on campus. It's more than just letters on your chest. Once you join a sorority, you are joining more than the women of that particular chapter.

[Ag_Sis]

I am perfectly aware that as a PNM we have very little decision making power. But we must rank just as everyone must, and apart from finding a spark or connection, academics matter more to me than social life or being hot and pretty.

Originally Posted by als463

If you go in and ask it by prefacing that you are obviously concerned about academics and want to be with other girls who are "like minded" as you regarding their studies, you may come off as really pretentious. Don't go in there thinking you are smarter or better than the actives. You may find that there are sisters in every chapter at A&M who are campus leaders and scholars. Don't let that be the main thing on your mind.

I have already said that I want a sisterhood first and foremost, so academics are not the "main thing on my mind." I would also never bluntly ask about things like this in real life. Maybe because this is the internet so I'm being misunderstood, but I would NEVER want to portray myself as better than anyone else or make someone else feel uncomfortable, which is why I'm asking you ladies on how to politely and diplomatically pose the question so that my rusher doesn't feel uncomfortable.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think what a lot of you are saying is that I shouldn't worry about it. If that's the case, well, y'all are the experts, not me! I'll still go into rush with an open mind and hope that I do find that wonderful match that's best for me and trust the process. Just about a month left to go, I'm super excited!