Does a legacy need a letter of recommendation?

[xibair]

Carnation thank you so much for bumping this thread.
This has been bothering me for me weeks and unsure what to do.

Question to all GCers, should I go ahead and fill out an Alpha Xi Delta recommendation for niece even though she may or may not follow through with sorority rush?

Here is my long winded story. I will not state the school since many of you can figure it out so quickly.

A year ago my niece was accepted to an instate school and I always believed sorority experience would suite her since she was smart, beautiful, but an introvert. She reminded me of myself as an introvert and I grew into my shell because of my sorority experience and holding an executive officer position. I believe this would be a beneficial experience for her. So, I gave her the all the information I read on GC and she showed no interest. I was kind of okay with it but I must admit I was disappointed. On a biased note I was hoping she would participate in rush because there is an Alpha Xi chapter at her university. I never brought it up again unless she asked.

Approximately three weeks ago she came over to my house and informed me she is going to rush this fall and needed help. I fell on the floor and was beyond excited. I asked her what changed her mind and it was because she had some close friends who are Delta Gamma’s . She asked me about how you deal with rejection. So we spent hours of research and I never thought about asking how her GPA was.
OH MY… It’s awful. The reason for the poor grades is because of my BIL. I’m not sure if you read my past posts but he has been in numerous failed rehabs for alcohol and he continues to deteriorate.Both my niece and nephew needs to go to counseling but that is a whole different issue.

So I was blunt. She needs to improve her grades and concentrate on school. I informed her she probably would be dropped by most if not all because of her poor grades. I broke her heart and now she is not sure if she wants to participate in formal rush .

I still feel awful and not sure what to do.

[DaffyKD]

I sent in a legacy form and my best friend (my daughter's godmother) sent in a recommendation form when my daughter started at a school with a KD chapter. She had told me she had no plans to go through recruitment, but I wanted everything in place in case she changed her mind when she found out friends would be going through. I figured it would only help to have it on file and could not hurt.

When I was at convention the following summer I met several young ladies from her school. I mentioned my daughter attending that school and one of the young ladies asked if I had sent in a rec form for her. When I told her, "yes," she informed me they had no idea what to do with the form as they had never seen one.

Daughter never went through recruitment. She did get involved on campus.

DaffyKD

[33girl]

The problem is not only are her grades bad, it's an exceptionally bad family situation which I am sure neither she nor you want to put out there. If he's been in rehab I'm sure that there are money issues too.

She needs to get things together before rushing, because even if she would somehow get a bid, her sisters are not equipped to be therapists. Better that you were honest with her than for her to go through rush and have rejection heaped on her other problems.