What to tell overconfident PNMs

[DubaiSis]

Here's what mutual selection means: they pick you and you get to say yes or no. At then end. But not until then.

I had to have the discussion with an alumna of another sorority who asked me for a rec for her daughter. She repeated the "guaranteed placement" line to me, and I carefully explained that only applies IF SHE MAKES IT TO PREFERENCE. That is nowhere the same thing as guaranteed placement. Thankfully she didn't think her snowflake was guaranteed a bid into her sorority and basically said legacy doesn't mean squat (which I also would argue. It means a bit more than squat - but not much). Thankfully in this case the mother and daughter are not overconfident; just not completely clear on how RFM works. And in this case I think they are both clear that if you want to join a sorority, you accept your invitations each day and say thank you.