Dealing with mean PNM's

[sigmagirl2000]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

There are times in life when you have to deal with horrible, horrible people. This is a good training ground. You're not going to talk that hag into liking you, your chapter or the sorority as a whole. She won't talk? I would just talk a blue streak about something so utterly happy that you can't help but smile while you tell the story. Then escort her out of the house and make damned sure she gets cut.

I think there have been plenty of stats that say inviting back everyone is a recipe for failure. If you are using RFM correctly, even the most struggling chapter is allowed to make SOME cuts. It doesn't have to be a lot and maybe reserved for the most vile of girls, but there should still be SOME cuts. And I would narc on her to panhel. Nobody needs that kind of drama in their chapters.

And I think there's nothing wrong with a little honesty. This girl is freaked out about only having "the worst house" left at preference or before? Lay it out there. Yes, you're smaller, but you are growing, you love your sisterhood and you think she would be a welcome addition to the mix. If she is willing to help make the chapter all it can be, you think she would be happy.

And then love the hell out of the girls who are strong enough to take the plunge.

This isn't true. NOT ALL CHAPTERS GET TO MAKE CUTS. This is totally dependent on the strength of the chapter as well as the number of chapters and number of PNMS. I know of several chapters at several recruitments where chapters are allowed zero cuts per carry figures. Most times even when RFM specialists are contacted, the only cuts that can be made are for women who don't meet national grade requirements.

[KDCat]

Originally Posted by sigmagirl2000

This isn't true. NOT ALL CHAPTERS GET TO MAKE CUTS. This is totally dependent on the strength of the chapter as well as the number of chapters and number of PNMS. I know of several chapters at several recruitments where chapters are allowed zero cuts per carry figures. Most times even when RFM specialists are contacted, the only cuts that can be made are for women who don't meet national grade requirements.

BTDT

I think it's better if the chapter has a minimal number of cuts, even when they should be inviting everyone back. It helps them feel like they don't have to take everyone. They are making some choices, rather than just getting everyone else's leftovers.