A brother in the fraternity I'm pledging is dating my ex

[elicampbell]

Originally Posted by sialater

Rush events lasted for a week. On Friday/Saturday/Sunday whenever I made those posts I was rushing 2 different frats where I didn't know anyone. On Monday 2 close friends in a different frat invited me to their invite only events. I attended and made friends with the rush chair who gave me a bid the next day.

I honestly thought this would be a safe place to voice some concerns about Greek Life considering the fact that I'm new to Greek life. I made those posts with the idea that I could understand how I could improve myself as a person. I see now that whatever posts I make, I'm going to be regarded as a troll. I sincerely apologize I voiced discomfort about a situation that I know will be awkward, and for trying to get different perspectives on the bid process so I can know how to improve myself (must b teh fact im nt a "functioning adult" lls and probz only 12 years old for having bad feelsies about not being able to talk to my ex amirite?)

I was mislead, and I sincerely apologize for destroying the sanctity of this site.

Congratulations on having a bid extended to you. One of the first things I learned when I started in my membership was that I was new and had no room to make demands on the membership. Another thing I learned was that I was in a FRATERNITY not a FRAT. I was not ever to call my organization a frat.

My advice to you is, take a breath, calm down, learn the history and everything you can about your organization. Stop worrying about who is dating whom.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by elicampbell

Another thing I learned was that I was in a FRATERNITY not a FRAT. I was not ever to call my organization a frat.

As noted many times on GC, this is something that can vary from GLO to GLO and campus to campus. He should take his lead from those in his chapter whether "frat" is appropriate or not. He should also be aware when talking to others not on his campus (including on GC) that even if it's okay for his org and campus, many elsewhere may find "frat" inappropriate or disrespectful.