Re-rushing as a sophomore? (please read below)

[FSUZeta]

I have no idea where you go to school or which sorority you are a legacy to (AND DO NOT TELL ME!), so this is mere speculation. You might have been cut by the other sororities due to the strength of your legacy chapter. In other words, they were afraid to take a chance on you because for some reason they thought that you were most interested in your legacy house. (of course, it could be for an entirely different reason too). Did you give off a "it's ABC or nothing for me?" vibe? Did you tell the other sororities that you were keeping your options open and making your own decision based on where you felt you would fit in best?


It sounds to me like you have kept yourself in the game for next year's rush by keeping your grades up, joining a campus org., volunteering, and making friends. Get your recommendations for next formal rush in order and go for it. We don't know what your chances will be that you receive a bid, but you won't get a bid if you don't try again.

[33girl]

Were you entirely cut from all sororities or did you drop out of rush voluntarily?

Also, there was no "accident. " The legacy chapter simply didn't rank you high enough to insure your inclusion in parties. Blaming it on RFM and other sororities is NOT cool.

[soccergirl]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Were you entirely cut from all sororities or did you drop out of rush voluntarily?

Also, there was no "accident. " The legacy chapter simply didn't rank you high enough to insure your inclusion in parties. Blaming it on RFM and other sororities is NOT cool.

I do not blame RFM or other sororities personally for my being cut, but I was just reiterating what people within my legacy told my sister when she and her sorority sisters questioned why I was cut early.

Also, I ended up going up until pref night to view the other sororities and realized that I truly did not feel like I fit in at the ones I had left and decided to drop before bid day.

[thetalady]

Originally Posted by soccergirl

I do not blame RFM or other sororities personally for my being cut, but I was just reiterating what people within my legacy told my sister when she and her sorority sisters questioned why I was cut early.

Also, I ended up going up until pref night to view the other sororities and realized that I truly did not feel like I fit in at the ones I had left and decided to drop before bid day.

Sweetie, what you and maybe your sister were told was a white lie to save you from embarrassment. Legacies are not dropped by accident. Cross cutting is not real under RFM.

Dropping out of rush while you the opportunity to join a sorority that WANTED YOU will not get you much sympathy here. And that is also going to have an impact on you if you choose to rush again. Expect to be dropped quickly by those sororities that you turned your back on this year.

Please don't misunderstand... if you would not have accepted a bid from those chapters that you had pref invites to, then that was the right thing to do, IMHO.

The thing you have to understand, hopefully with maturity, is that YOU might have rejected your chance at sorority membership.

[soccergirl]

Originally Posted by thetalady

Sweetie, what you and maybe your sister were told was a white lie to save you from embarrassment. Legacies are not dropped by accident. Cross cutting is not real under RFM.

Dropping out of rush while you the opportunity to join a sorority that WANTED YOU will not get you much sympathy here. And that is also going to have an impact on you if you choose to rush again. Expect to be dropped quickly by those sororities that you turned your back on this year.

Please don't misunderstand... if you would not have accepted a bid from those chapters that you had pref invites to, then that was the right thing to do, IMHO.

The thing you have to understand, hopefully with maturity, is that YOU might have rejected your chance at sorority membership.

I truly am not looking for sympathy, I am just trying to get some honest feedback to help me make my decision for the coming year. That is what I have been given so far and I really am so thankful for all of it.

I definitely agree with you and understand the consequences of my actions last year. I do not regret dropping after pref night, however, because I know that it gave me time to set my roots elsewhere at my university and ponder more on greek life and what it means to me. I will go into sorority recruitment next year knowing that I may not have the best chances, but I know that this is the best option for me and I will be prepared for whatever happens.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read and respond, though!

[soccergirl]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

I have no idea where you go to school or which sorority you are a legacy to (AND DO NOT TELL ME!), so this is mere speculation. You might have been cut by the other sororities due to the strength of your legacy chapter. In other words, they were afraid to take a chance on you because for some reason they thought that you were most interested in your legacy house. (of course, it could be for an entirely different reason too). Did you give off a "it's ABC or nothing for me?" vibe? Did you tell the other sororities that you were keeping your options open and making your own decision based on where you felt you would fit in best?


It sounds to me like you have kept yourself in the game for next year's rush by keeping your grades up, joining a campus org., volunteering, and making friends. Get your recommendations for next formal rush in order and go for it. We don't know what your chances will be that you receive a bid, but you won't get a bid if you don't try again.

I did try to communicate that I was keeping my options open, but I did have the mindset of being dedicated to my legacy. I think I will try for next year, thank you so much!!