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My daughter did receive a bid tonight, from an un-housed chapter. Her Rho Gamma advised her to go to the chapter and give it a shot, which she did. She felt lucky to get any bid at all. Many girls on her floor didn't make it to pref. round at all, or didn't get any chapters that appealed to them and dropped out.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but the recruitment system is set up to be a mutual selection process. If one party or the other does not feel comfortable (at the very least) with moving forward, it would be in the best interest of the PNM and the chapter to end the relationship. This not only ensures that another girl could move into a spot better suited to her, but also a chapter which gains a committed new member.
The message I was trying to get across was that she just didn't make a connection with the three chapters during pref. round. She continued to visit these chapters with the hope of finding that connection, but it just didn't happen. The fact that they are un-housed was a consideration for her; the idea of possibly living in an apartment frightened her a bit.
NO ONE said that the un-housed chapters are "less" than other chapters. They simply didn't feel comfortable to her. There were other chapters with houses that also didn't feel comfortable, but those did not end up on her list.
As far as wanting my daughter to be a part of Greek life and also bashing the system, that's totally true. The problems are not the fault of the girls in the chapter houses. Every sorority member my daughter came into contact with during recruitment was nice to her, and she actually enjoyed the process and meeting all the girls. I just don't understand why IU/PHA allows the system to continue the way it is. Why are so many qualified young women turned away from an experience that would benefit not only the girls, but the university?
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