Phi Kappa Psi at U of Virginia Voluntarily Suspends Activities

[honorgal]

More from Slate. Very long article but even-handed and for those who are mostly familiar with the big picture look only from sound bites or as a result of the RS article, it's well worth the time.

http://www.slate.com/articles/double...e_efforts.html

[33girl]

Originally Posted by honorgal

More from Slate. Very long article but even-handed and for those who are mostly familiar with the big picture look only from sound bites or as a result of the RS article, it's well worth the time.

http://www.slate.com/articles/double...e_efforts.html

from the story:


She says she is troubled by the blurring of distinctions between rape (notably by predatory males), unwanted sex (where one party agrees to sex not out of desire but to please or placate the partner), and the kind of consensual sex where both parties are so drunk they can barely remember what happened—and one of them later regrets it. She says, “Calling all of these kinds of sexual encounters ‘rape’ or ‘sexual assault’ doesn’t teach young women how to learn what they want sexually, let alone how to communicate what they want, or don’t want. It doesn’t teach them to take responsibility for their decisions, for their reluctance to speak up. Sexual communication is really hard—you don’t learn how to do it in a few weekends.”


Tavris also believes holding only men responsible for their sexual behavior has pernicious effects on women because it supports a victim identity that is already too prevalent in our society. “It’s so much easier to be a victim than to admit culpability, admit your own involvement, admit that you made a mistake,” she says. “It’s much easier to say it’s all his fault. Look, sometimes it is all his fault. That’s called rape. But ambiguities and unexpected decisions are part of many encounters, especially sexual ones.”


This. This. This. This. THIS.