Considering quitting

[AOIILisa]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

Alumnae membership is so much different, and I really think you'd regret dropping out. Your sorority is so much more than your one chapter. You're in school for only 4 years, but your membership really is for a lifetime. Many people here will speak fondly of their collegiate membership, but I think most would agree that alumnae membership seems to pull the whole idea of a sorority together and truly makes you understand what a sisterhood is.

I know it may be difficult now, but you're a senior - focus on school, graduation, getting a job, etc. Be involved with the chapter as well, but don't go overboard. No one wants to see their chapter struggle, but it's time for the younger members to step up.

I would really urge you to not give up on your sorority as a whole.

Originally Posted by 33girl

You have senioritis. Lay low and find others (Greek or not) to lay low with. Also, in the case I know of personally like this, HQ didn't accept the person's request to self-terminate.

I agree with both of these statements - I was sick of sorority by the time I was a senior and wanted to drop -but I stuck it out and I'm glad I did. Your sorority is so much more than just your chapter and even though your org may be "bottom tier" at your school, there are many top tier women alums that you haven't met yet. Alumnae membership is way different and lots of fun! Does your org give you the option to go early alum?

[greekanon]

Originally Posted by AOIILisa

I agree with both of these statements - I was sick of sorority by the time I was a senior and wanted to drop -but I stuck it out and I'm glad I did. Your sorority is so much more than just your chapter and even though your org may be "bottom tier" at your school, there are many top tier women alums that you haven't met yet. Alumnae membership is way different and lots of fun! Does your org give you the option to go early alum?

I'm not sure if I have the option of early alum, but I'd like to look into it. Problem is I'm not comfortable talking with any of the officers in my chapter about it, but I'll see what I can find out from other resources.

I also if my financial aid allows, I might not have to take a full load of classes next semester, thus forcing me to become inactive or an alum (I'm not sure which, I'm not familiar with the process)

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by greekanon

I'm not sure if I have the option of early alum, but I'd like to look into it. Problem is I'm not comfortable talking with any of the officers in my chapter about it, but I'll see what I can find out from other resources.

Is there a chapter adviser? That's probably your best bet.

I don't know why people are suggesting it, though. Early alum is for women with extreme circumstances, not for women who just don't feel like paying dues their last semester.

[thetalady]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

I don't know why people are suggesting it, though. Early alum is for women with extreme circumstances, not for women who just don't feel like paying dues their last semester.

The mention of wanting to become an alumna early because of financial reasons is just rude. The OP never mentioned money in any way. It was not even implied.

Senior year is really, really stressful. Time to start making plans for the next chapter of your life. STICK IT OUT!

Remaining a member of any GLO has implications on your life down the road that you might not even be able to imagine right now. How about the day when you might have a daughter going to college who wants to rush? How about your best friend (who you haven't even met) has a daughter that asks for a recommendation to your GLO? You move to a new city where you don't know anyone, but you see a woman wearing your sorority symbol at Starbucks? A new chapter opening in the city (where you don't even live now) contacts you and needs advisors?

You CAN do it!

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by thetalady

The mention of wanting to become an alumna early because of financial reasons is just rude. The OP never mentioned money in any way. It was not even implied.

Okay, replace "pay dues" with "attend chapter" or whatever else you associate with remaining a member in good standing. The point is that I'm not aware of a single NPC organization that allows this just because someone is dissatisfied with her chapter. It's bandied about on GC like an obvious solution, and to the best of my knowledge, it's very, very rare.

[Nanners52674]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Okay, replace "pay dues" with "attend chapter" or whatever else you associate with remaining a member in good standing. The point is that I'm not aware of a single NPC organization that allows this just because someone is dissatisfied with her chapter. It's bandied about on GC like an obvious solution, and to the best of my knowledge, it's very, very rare.

My chapter had a specific ammendment in our Constitution addressing the different member statuses and their requirements.

It was mostly used by last semester seniors with internships or other large academic projects.

However there were sisters who used it simply to distance themselves from the chapter and the reason it was allowed is because the girls who would petition for this simply because they're sick of the sorority but still want to be am alum.

Honestly it got approved everytime because no one wanted to force someone who didn't want to be there, to be there.

*Dues still have to be paid in all of these situations.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by Nanners52674

My chapter had a specific ammendment in our Constitution addressing the different member statuses and their requirements.

It was mostly used by last semester seniors with internships or other large academic projects.

However there were sisters who used it simply to distance themselves from the chapter and the reason it was allowed is because the girls who would petition for this simply because they're sick of the sorority but still want to be am alum.

Honestly it got approved everytime because no one wanted to force someone who didn't want to be there, to be there.

*Dues still have to be paid in all of these situations.

If dues still had to be paid, was the difference in attendance requirements? Because I know there are chapters that require less of seniors and so on, but I'd be surprised if national organizations weren't requiring women in college to remain collegiate members until they leave or graduate. My point here is that alum status pretty much means you have no further obligations to your collegiate chapter, and it gets bandied around on GC far too often.

(And yes, my org has an "interim" status for women with personal emergencies or internships far from campus, but it is not granted without good reason and it's certainly not "alum.")

[honeychile]

Please don't think that any of the posters aren't taking you seriously. No one is doubting your feelings right now. Many of the most active alumnae posters on GreekChat had bouts of senioritis. I admit to using the back door half of the time during my last term.

Yet, looking back, I'm so glad that I stuck it out. Your national organization and the sisters (both of your own sorority and other NPC greeks) will be there for you when everybody else disappears.

It's only a few months. If you have to use the mantra of "if I can stick this out, I can do anything," do it. Just try it - you will be happier in the long run!