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Originally Posted by 33girl
It's stuff like this that makes me think that maybe we should get rid of recs and legacies, period.
I understand that the original concept was to introduce women you knew to the sorority you loved because both would benefit - the sorority would get a girl you knew was awesome and the girl would get the sisterhood that contributed so much to your life. But somewhere along the way, it seems like the whole thing got corrupted.
Maybe this is another "I'm not a mom" thing, but I can't imagine being mad at my chapter because 20 years after I was in it, they didn't like a girl I was related to or that I liked. Heck, when I was IN school there were girls I was friends with and loved dearly that my sisters couldn't stand. That doesn't mean I threw a tantrum and acted like she "deserved" membership just because she knew me.
If you can't find friends on your own merits, are they really your friends at all?
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I completely agree, at least on the legacy part. I can kind of see both sides of the rec argument (but only in ridiculously huge recruitments do I think they should be utilized).
As for legacies, there are simply too many now. Heck, there are just too many PNMs in general. Too many PNMs + RFM = chapters wondering how they're going to cut so many PNMs = cutting PNMs who are legacies to other chapters. We've seen it happen. In some cases, it's detrimental to an open-minded legacy who wants to explore all of her options.
And of course, there are now so many legacies that in some cases, even if a chapter's entire pledge class was made of legacies, they still wouldn't fit them all in. And maybe that chapter gave a bid to the open-minded PNM who ultimately felt at home at a different chapter, and the PNM who desperately wanted in (and whose mom is going to be pissed) didn't get a bid.
And while I don't want to start a North vs South war, I think the idea of doing away with legacy status would be met with much more resistance in the south than it would in the north.
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