Why Sorority Recruitment is Horrible and Needs to Change

[BlueCarnation]

Originally Posted by 33girl

^^^Do you think they aren't good fits for your chapter in particular or sorority life on that campus in general?

That's coming out snarky and I truly don't mean it to but I don't know how else to word it.

I don't think it's snarky at all. I think they are good fits for sorority life on campus in general, but just not the chapter of my organization on that campus due to different personalities, backgrounds, etc. It's not a value judgment on either the chapter or the young woman; it's just something I struggle with because I value my sorority and sorority membership so much, and want these young women to have a positive experience, but I know that at some places, my sorority might not be the place for them. (I hope that makes sense).

[33girl]

I TOTALLY understand. I think the other side of the coin is difficult too - a chapter that you would have had a bad experience in might be something the girl receiving the rec would fit perfectly in.

I think all you can do is say with your rec, this is a lovely accomplished girl of good character, but if there isn't a fit I understand. This is/was probably easier to do when the girl had no idea she was being rec'ed. (Did that used to be the norm?)

[Nanners52674]

Originally Posted by BlueCarnation

I don't think it's snarky at all. I think they are good fits for sorority life on campus in general, but just not the chapter of my organization on that campus due to different personalities, backgrounds, etc. It's not a value judgment on either the chapter or the young woman; it's just something I struggle with because I value my sorority and sorority membership so much, and want these young women to have a positive experience, but I know that at some places, my sorority might not be the place for them. (I hope that makes sense).

I think tiers aside PNMS don't realize that the girl who you talk to on open house who's Omg plays soccer, loves pizza and Disney movies just like you do is planned that way it's not an accident. So I can understand why some girls get confused when a house cuts them.

What I think isn't emphasized enough is that the houses are actually friends with each other. All this talk about tiers makes it sound like each house exists in a vacuum and they don't socialize with each other. They do, and they know the vibes of the other houses and where you would fit (this is where trusting the process comes in), I just wish there was a way for a PNM to get a good vibe off the chapter during formal because everything is so choreographed and planned.