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There are two issues: The one, as AZTheta pointed out, is the perspective on the practice of ISP: some find it offensive; some find it is what it is. Varying perspectives are fine. The second issue is lecturing. A number of posters objected to lecturing. I would agree with them --- lecturing frequently backfires, only solidfying the recipient's mindset. (Think also of other contexts such as the workplace or politics. What oftentimes happens is that people try to avoid the chastiser). The second is a style issue rather than a substance issue. There are ways to frame a potentially more effective or persuasive response. Here, for example, it might have been: "Not receiving a bid to House #2 seems to be the first outcome you sought. The second outcome of a bid to a different house will be, as you know, a challenge. There are fewer slots and they are often given to women who are already friends. The odds are long, but sign up with the Greek Life office". That response is relatively factual and makes the point. Is it persusive? Who knows (and does it matter)? But it puts the responsibility and action back in her court. And I do give credit to those who see "What are my chances" as a euphemism for a complaint. Answer: Sign up and you will find out.
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