University of Alabama Fall 2014 NPC Sorority Recruitment

[Momoftwogirls]

Originally Posted by PearlGirl13

I wouldn't worry too much, too early (actually, I wouldn't worry at all if you can help it!). My rec girl this year had a very successful recruitment in spite of not looking all that great on paper. Her GPA was middle of the road (3.2), she didn't really have any outstanding high school activities or awards, she is cute enough, but not a beauty queen and I'm not even very confident that she had recs for all the sororities.

What she did have though was a bubbly personality and determination to pledge a sorority! She wanted it badly and was willing to pick new favorites every time she had to. The system works for those who want it to work.

My daughter is a drama major at her high school. She said the way she looks at it is like auditions. You go in prepared and be yourself. If they don't think you are a fit then that's all it is. I did tell her the only way I would let her go through this is if she went into it knowing that everything happens for a reason. If it doesn't work out its because she was meant for a different path. Having said that, she has an excellent GPA, is bubbly, personable, friendly and cute. I would be shocked if she didn't match up to a house. But, you never know.

[AZTheta]

Originally Posted by Momoftwogirls

My daughter is a drama major at her high school. She said the way she looks at it is like auditions. You go in prepared and be yourself. If they don't think you are a fit then that's all it is. I did tell her the only way I would let her go through this is if she went into it knowing that everything happens for a reason. If it doesn't work out its because she was meant for a different path. Having said that, she has an excellent GPA, is bubbly, personable, friendly and cute. I would be shocked if she didn't match up to a house. But, you never know.

You nailed it. Your daughter has had experience with not being selected ("rejected") and you have told her the truth: everything does happen for a reason, and there may well be a different path. I predict she'll have a fine recruitment, because she has an open mind and heart and a great attitude!

IMO so much heartache/heartbreak comes from unrealistic expectations. PNMS do not accept that they are not always going to get what it is that they think they want or deserve. Reality bites. Hard.

[Hartofsec]

It seems to me that having one's heart set on a particular chapter (or a few chapters) may be more of an issue with in-state PNMs than OOS PNMs. My thought is that in-state girls form impressions based on where older girls from their high school pledge.

OOS girls may not know many (and sometimes any) actives in the chapters, so they may be arriving with fewer preconceived biases.

What do you all think -- especially those of you who are OOS and writing recs for OOS PNMs?