UGA Recruitment

[maconmagnolia]

Originally Posted by pinapple

I 100% understand what you are saying but the base of disappointment in ANY Greek System during recruitment, IN MY OPINION, is our societal norm that we never allow children to fail. Trophies for every kid, ribbons for everyone one who isn't first, second, or third, etc. Some of these girls walk through doors of these houses never having had experienced major life disappointments. They arrive at the college they wanted, in the car they wanted and are staying in the dorm they wanted. When that is the case and it is coupled with a disappointing recruitment, it is a perfect storm and a horrible way to start a new chapter of one's life. I certainly do not have the solution, but I do believe this is a huge part of the issue when it comes to how the disappointment is handled. I see it every year. The girls that are actually released, the girls that "self" release and the girls that simply cannot accept that her bid card says ABC instead of DEF. You could literally line up the majority of women in the majority of houses, strip their letters, shuffle them up and you would never know the difference. Because of that in the deep part of the brain that is our reasoning sector, the girls have to realize it was not personal, no matter how it feels.

I couldn't agree more. I think that this is also why it is so hard for some parents when their daughter either 1. doesn't get a bid or 2. doesn't get a bid that she wants. They've always given her everything, and now they can't just give her this.

[ASTalumna06]

As evidenced by this thread on THAT site…

http://www.greekrank.com/uni/85/topi...-side-of-rush/

It always makes me a little mad/sad that these women (at least say that they) are willing to drop all ties with their sorority because their daughter didn't receive a bid from their chapter/sorority. That's clearly not the answer. Things are obviously much different than they were 25 years ago, and as has been said, it's not personal.

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

As evidenced by this thread on THAT site…

http://www.greekrank.com/uni/85/topi...-side-of-rush/

It always makes me a little mad/sad that these women (at least say that they) are willing to drop all ties with their sorority because their daughter didn't receive a bid from their chapter/sorority. That's clearly not the answer. Things are obviously much different than they were 25 years ago, and as has been said, it's not personal.

I have mixed feeling about this. I understand the realities that GLOs can't take all the legacies sometimes because they have more legacies than quota. And yet, I don't blame a woman at all who rather than continue to support a chapter that cut her daughter instead gives her support to the chapter that found a place for her daughter. And let's be honest, how many of these folks were supporting the chapters in any substantive way before the daughter rushed anyway? What ties are they really cutting?

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by UGAalum94

I have mixed feeling about this. I understand the realities that GLOs can't take all the legacies sometimes because they have more legacies than quota. And yet, I don't blame a woman at all who rather than continue to support a chapter that cut her daughter instead gives her support to the chapter that found a place for her daughter. And let's be honest, how many of these folks were supporting the chapters in any substantive way before the daughter rushed anyway? What ties are they really cutting?

Supporting your daughter's chapter is one thing.. Threatening to cut all ties with your own sorority is another. Regardless of their level of involvement, they just sound petty and childish.

[AOIILisa]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

Supporting your daughter's chapter is one thing.. Threatening to cut all ties with your own sorority is another. Regardless of their level of involvement, they just sound petty and childish.

Agreed - the sorority is more than just one house of that sorority. The parents sound just as petulant and entitled as the kids - probably the first time the parents haven't been able to fix a bad situation for their kids and they're going nuts.

ETA - I see that I said just what FSUZeta said, except she said it better!