University of Alabama Fall 2014 NPC Sorority Recruitment - Page 12

AnchorAlumna · #**166** 08-13-2014, 11:32 PM

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Originally Posted by ShadeTree

Not sure if they use ICS or Campus Director...

They were using ICS but switched to Innova last year. Is Innova the same thing as Campus Director?

AZTheta · #**167** 08-13-2014, 11:42 PM

phialum believed that the PNM did not have a rec for one particular chapter because despite her best efforts she was unable to secure one. My point was that she could not possibly be 100% certain of that fact. I was unaware that I had a rec to a chapter I preferenced, until after rush was finished.

That's all, no big deal. It was just a sharing of information, since not everyone realizes that if a rec is needed for a desired pnm a chapter will do what's necessary to obtain a rec. Networking, especially in this era, is lightning fast.

No way to reasonably connect the dots to infer that this convo indicates that PNMs shouldn't do everything possible to obtain recs. I never said anything like that and neither did anyone else who followed up on my posts.

Sweeping generalizations aren't useful.

Sheesh.

gatordeltapgh · #**168** 08-13-2014, 11:59 PM

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Originally Posted by AnchorAlumna

They were using ICS but switched to Innova last year. Is Innova the same thing as Campus Director?

Yes. Innova is the company and Campus Director is the product.

UAmommax2 · #**169** 08-14-2014, 01:10 AM

My daughter is having a good experience at UA so far! She's been lucky with a full party list thus far with only a couple of disappointments along the way. She's still very excited about her options & loves several of the houses on her list(which makes this momma happy!). I know big cuts are coming but am very hopeful in the process that she'll still be happy come Saturday morning! I have a silly question- she says they'll take her phone on Friday until voting is over. Does anyone know if they can let others (um, like her sister & I) know the 3 she's preffing before the parties begin? I'm not sure I can wait all day, lol!!!

Hartofsec · #**170** 08-14-2014, 02:09 AM

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Originally Posted by UAmommax2

My daughter is having a good experience at UA so far! She's been lucky with a full party list thus far with only a couple of disappointments along the way. She's still very excited about her options & loves several of the houses on her list(which makes this momma happy!). I know big cuts are coming but am very hopeful in the process that she'll still be happy come Saturday morning! I have a silly question- she says they'll take her phone on Friday until voting is over. Does anyone know if they can let others (um, like her sister & I) know the 3 she's preffing before the parties begin? I'm not sure I can wait all day, lol!!! ;)

Her Rho Chi will probably take phones before the girls receive their invitations, so it is likely you may not know where she is returning for pref. She can call you after she has turned in her choices Friday night.

Plan a busy day Friday, go out to dinner with friends, and enjoy a nice wine. Maybe have some wine with lunch too. :)

Good luck to your daughter!

Titchou · #**171** 08-14-2014, 06:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Low D Flat

If it isn't too nosy a question, did you consider a no-rec? Or did the ingratitude only come out after the rec was sent? Just wondering because when a nice person is this provoked, there's usually a good story behind it.

This is not something that rises to the level of a "no" rec. For me, those are only confirmed serious behaviour issues (one I did the girl was arrested at school and hauled off in the police car). However, I do know how to write a non flattering rec, an average rec, a great rec, etc. Being a spoiled ingrate does not deserve a "no" - because they may call and ask me why and I have to have a good reason. (our chapter advisers can ask an alum why the "no"" rec so I am careful to only do one when it can be backed up).

UAmommax2 · #**172** 08-14-2014, 07:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Hartofsec

Her Rho Chi will probably take phones before the girls receive their invitations, so it is likely you may not know where she is returning for pref. She can call you after she has turned in her choices Friday night.

Plan a busy day Friday, go out to dinner with friends, and enjoy a nice wine. Maybe have some wine with lunch too.

Good luck to your daughter!

Thank you, Hartofsec! If this is the case, Friday will be a very long day! Going from 8 houses to 3 makes me a little, ok, a lot nervous! ...& yes, wine may just be the answer I was looking for!

DGTess · #**173** 08-14-2014, 02:17 PM

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Originally Posted by UAmommax2

My daughter is having a good experience at UA so far! She's been lucky with a full party list thus far with only a couple of disappointments along the way. She's still very excited about her options & loves several of the houses on her list(which makes this momma happy!). I know big cuts are coming but am very hopeful in the process that she'll still be happy come Saturday morning! I have a silly question- she says they'll take her phone on Friday until voting is over. Does anyone know if they can let others (um, like her sister & I) know the 3 she's preffing before the parties begin? I'm not sure I can wait all day, lol!!!

They confiscate private property???!!!!????!!!!

I thought the idea was to treat the women as adults.

33girl · #**174** 08-14-2014, 02:27 PM

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Originally Posted by DGTess

They confiscate private property???!!!!????!!!!

I thought the idea was to treat the women as adults.

If the women were acting as adults (i.e. realized they need to act with discretion until the process is completed and not word/picture vomit every 5 minutes online) they wouldn't have to take their phones. If there's an emergency, land lines still exist.

Plus when it's 21 year olds doing it to 18 year olds, that logic sort of goes out the window.

Bamamom16 · #**175** 08-14-2014, 02:48 PM

^^^^True, and honestly, at that point, it is so important for the PNM to be making her own decisions and choices uninfluenced by outsiders and their opinions. Each chapter on every campus is different, and we all know moms, cousins, Aunts, friends, etc. who want to give their input which further clouds the poor PNM's already overwhelmed mind! It is best, at this point, for the PNM to make their own decision. I would think it also leads to more retention overall by sororities if the PNM is choosing and not feeling torn by trying to please others.

Low D Flat · #**176** 08-14-2014, 02:52 PM

I totally get why they do it. It probably works very well to deter outside influence as well as unwise tweets. But I would have a huge problem with it if I were a PNM. I'm capable of following rules like "Don't tweet your prefs!" without having my hands tied.

Does a PNM get her phone back when SHE is done ranking, or does she have to wait until the 2250th Unsure Uma makes up her mind?

Bamamom16 · #**177** 08-14-2014, 02:56 PM

I think once they pref, because I do not remember waiting all night to hear from my daughter, and we all know these things can drag on!

33girl · #**178** 08-14-2014, 03:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Low D Flat

I totally get why they do it. It probably works very well to deter outside influence as well as unwise tweets. But I would have a huge problem with it if I were a PNM. I'm capable of following rules like "Don't tweet your prefs!" without having my hands tied.

Does a PNM get her phone back when SHE is done ranking, or does she have to wait until the 2250th Unsure Uma makes up her mind?

It's not just the PNMs, it's the "concerned" friends and relatives who often don't know when to stop calling/texting. I'm sure for some girls it's a very welcome respite.

Lovethesand · #**179** 08-14-2014, 03:08 PM

When Debbie went through recruitment at OSU 2 years ago they took the phones in the am and gave them back at night after they made their choices for that day. The following year PNMs had their phones with them all day. I think it bothered me more than it did her and it was probably for the best that I wasn't pestering her with questions throughout the day.

Lovethesand · #**180** 08-14-2014, 03:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Bamamom16

^^^^True, and honestly, at that point, it is so important for the PNM to be making her own decisions and choices uninfluenced by outsiders and their opinions. Each chapter on every campus is different, and we all know moms, cousins, Aunts, friends, etc. who want to give their input which further clouds the poor PNM's already overwhelmed mind! It is best, at this point, for the PNM to make their own decision. I would think it also leads to more retention overall by sororities if the PNM is choosing and not feeling torn by trying to please others.

Very true and I truly wish PNMs would keep this in mind for themselves and the PNMs they're going through recruitment with. One PNM had 3 choices for Pref Round and she was beyond ecstatic with her choices. Susy Sunshine comes in and begins to tell her how awful, bottom tier, take everybody, etc the 3 choices are and leaves the previously happy PNM wondering what the heck just happened. Tent talk at its absolute worst.