My little is a ghost sister--NEED ADVICE

[FSUZeta]

Step back. No matter how hard you try, you can not make someone want to get the full benefit of sorority membership. Badgering her to attend events, to take a little, no matter how often and how insistent you are will not change her, and could possibly ruin your relationship with her.

You have done your duty-you have guided her, let her know about events, invited her to do things with you-you have done all you could do. She is an adult-she makes her own decisions and she has to live with the decisions she makes, and you need to accept that.

[andthen]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

Step back. No matter how hard you try, you can not make someone want to get the full benefit of sorority membership. Badgering her to attend events, to take a little, no matter how often and how insistent you are will not change her, and could possibly ruin your relationship with her.

You have done your duty-you have guided her, let her know about events, invited her to do things with you-you have done all you could do. She is an adult-she makes her own decisions and she has to live with the decisions she makes, and you need to accept that.

I agree 110% with what FSUZeta is telling you. I'm sure your heart is in the right place and you want your little to have the same sorority opportunities that you had and that is to be commended. But unfortunately your little has to make her own choices and learn from those choices. Sometimes there's positives and sometimes there are negative. Ultimately regardless of how hard you tried, your little may look back on her collegiate days, and she will either feel at peace about not being super involved or she might regret. Either way its her choice to make and her life to live.