Rho Chi advice

[KappaKittyCat]

Like you, I was a COB pledge and have only been through Recruitment as a sister. I've never had an RC with whom I was close, nor have I been one, but based on what I've seen from my side, I can give you one very important suggestion that could very well make a lot of difference.

Anonymity is more than giving up one's letters for a month or a term (depending on when your Recruitment is). It involves a complete disaffiliation from your sorority, and that includes your sisters, both those who are anonymous and those who are not. Every year the freshmen manage to figure out where the RC's belong. That's because Theta RC's only hung out with other Theta RC's, DG's with DG's, etc. My sisters were equally bad about this. Though it might be difficult to figure out whether Laura is a DG, Theta, or Kappa, when they saw Laura together with Katie and Sara, they figured out that all three of them were DG's based on group interaction. Does that make sense? So of course you can't hang out with your affiliated sisters in public, which is hard, but you really need to make an effort to avoid hanging out with your sisters who are RC's in public as well.

This year at my school we're trying to build a sisterhood of RC's-- bonding, regular meetings, etc. We got them RC t-shirts and RC badges (available from NPC). I wish there were RC ritual. Hmm, there's a thought... maybe I should write some. But anyway, a visible sisterhood of RC's can do a lot to illustrate an earlier stated point, that different GLO affiliations do not mess up friendships.

I really like the brown paper bag idea that someone else shared. I wish they'd do that with every incoming freshman at my school (grr... liberal arts school with loads of stereotypes, including that the Greek system is anathema to a positive liberal arts education and mindset... and deferred Recruitment doesn't help either). One other thing I can suggest is that if a girl looks like she's going to be a hard sell, don't get pushy. I was easily turned off of going through Recruitment my freshman year by an overzealous RC who just about stalked me. Not that you would do that, but just so you're aware...

Best of luck to you. The fact that you're seeking advice this early in the game is a nod to your commitment to this position. I know you'll have a positive influence on many freshman women.