What should I do?

[33girl]

Your comment about they're trying to rush you through pledgeship made me a little leery. Have you mentioned to any of the brothers or national staff that you're thinking about transferring?

[weasuhl]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Your comment about they're trying to rush you through pledgeship made me a little leery. Have you mentioned to any of the brothers or national staff that you're thinking about transferring?

If you mean in the sense that they're trying to lock me in or something I doubt that is the case. I was told that they're trying to move me along the process a bit faster because I'm the only one in the pledge class and since we're students first they're trying to keep as many fraternal obligations out of final week as possible.

I've told all the brothers, yes. Like I said there reply was they hope they give me a reason to stay. While I'm sure joining would make my experience here a lot better I still think I would prefer attending a larger school. I would've started at one but I didn't have the GPA right out of high school (2.8gpa, 14 college credits and 2k SAT got me close to a full ride to a not-so-good 4 year school).

[33girl]

All I can say is, keep this about school first. If you can't get the major you want at your school or feel like you're missing out on other academic opportunities, that's what should guide you. Also keep in mind that your tuition and everything else will probably go up and there's the chance that you would get to the new school and not be able to afford a fraternity. You mentioned CMU as an option, and it is CRAZY expensive.

I went to a school of 6000 and while it would have been fun to go to big time college football games and such, I don't feel like I missed a thing. Not only am I still close with my sorority sisters 2 decades later, the whole Greek system in general is. Yes when you're in school sometimes it seems like everyone is up each others' asses and to the left. Yes we didn't have fancy houses. But for me, those things were so outweighed by the love and acceptance I found and continue to find.

It's up to you to weigh pros and cons and stay true to yourself, but as I said, keep this about SCHOOL FIRST. Good luck!

[weasuhl]

Originally Posted by 33girl

All I can say is, keep this about school first. If you can't get the major you want at your school or feel like you're missing out on other academic opportunities, that's what should guide you. Also keep in mind that your tuition and everything else will probably go up and there's the chance that you would get to the new school and not be able to afford a fraternity. You mentioned CMU as an option, and it is CRAZY expensive.

I went to a school of 6000 and while it would have been fun to go to big time college football games and such, I don't feel like I missed a thing. Not only am I still close with my sorority sisters 2 decades later, the whole Greek system in general is. Yes when you're in school sometimes it seems like everyone is up each others' asses and to the left. Yes we didn't have fancy houses. But for me, those things were so outweighed by the love and acceptance I found and continue to find.

It's up to you to weigh pros and cons and stay true to yourself, but as I said, keep this about SCHOOL FIRST. Good luck!

I get what you're saying. It's just hard to decide..you only live once, you know? I want live in the best way for me.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by weasuhl

I get what you're saying. It's just hard to decide..you only live once, you know? I want live in the best way for me.

My $0.02—this isn't just about deciding whether to transfer or not. Remember that the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. You very well could get to a new school and find that nothing has really changed or that it's not what you hoped it would be.

As 33girl said, if it's a matter of academics or where you really think you'd thrive, that's one thing. But if it's more a matter of "I wonder if it'd be different somewhere bigger," then I think that can be a risky reason to transfer. It might work out, it might not. You're likely seeing an idealized version of your friends' experiences. Trust me, I've been there, more than once.

The most important decision, I think, could be choosing to be happy where you are and to make the most of what your school has to offer—including what a smaller campus can offer that a larger one can't.

Good luck!