COB - Page 5

andthen · #61 03-05-2014, 08:47 AM

Thanks for the update!! I hope Thursday's event goes well.

pinksequins · #62 03-05-2014, 10:06 AM

All good news, Paige! I hope you continue to have fun!

MaryPoppins · #63 03-05-2014, 10:20 AM

Keeping you in my thoughts!

FSUZeta · #64 03-05-2014, 10:30 AM

Smart girl!!! Enjoy your time at "The Office", as well as a fun and classy Fake Patty's on Saturday. Hope to hear good news soon!

shirley1929 · #65 03-05-2014, 11:50 AM

Love this thread! Have been waiting for it to be bumped. Paige, we are rooting you on!!! You have handled yourself perfectly. Good luck!!!

paigeh93 · #66 03-06-2014, 10:25 PM

Time for an update!

I went to The Office tonight for their ice cream social. I had a good time but didn't click as well as I did with Parks & Recreation. I got to go on their house tour and meet their president but I felt like their house could have been any other sorority, there wasn't anything special. I did like them but I definitely liked Parks & Recreation more.

One thing I am curious about, what if The Office contacts me first and offers a bid? I definitely think Parks & Recreation is going to contact me after what their recruitment chair said but I don't know what to do because I don't want to say no to The Office unless I know for sure that Parks & Recreation isn't going to offer me a bid.

What should I do?

IndianaSigKap · #67 03-06-2014, 10:33 PM

Chapters usually give you at least 24 hours to accept or decline. You can politely tell them that you need to discuss the financial commitment with your parents. That will buy you some time. If you need more time, tell them that you have made appointments with other chapters who contacted you before the bid was extended. Good luck to you!

Cheerio · #68 03-06-2014, 10:44 PM

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Originally Posted by aephi alum

One thing I'd point out here: If you get a bid AND you feel comfortable with the group, accept it.

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Originally Posted by DubaiSis

But on the other hand, if you like them but wonder if going through formal rush would open more doors for you, take the offer in front of you. I would only decline it if you really think you would be unhappy there. Turning down a bid in favor of the unknown is best only if you would prefer not to be Greek than be Greek with that group of women.

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ASTalumna06 · #69 03-06-2014, 11:16 PM

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Originally Posted by IndianaSigKap

Chapters usually give you at least 24 hours to accept or decline. You can politely tell them that you need to discuss the financial commitment with your parents. That will buy you some time. If you need more time, tell them that you have made appointments with other chapters who contacted you before the bid was extended. Good luck to you!

I don't know about this. I wouldn't lie. What happens if she was offered a bid tomorrow by The Office, told them she needed to discuss finances with her parents, then was offered a bid by Parks & Rec the next day and was seen celebrating with them shortly after by members of The Office? I can't imagine they'd be too happy. No one wants to burn bridges on day 1.

IndianaSigKap · #70 03-06-2014, 11:28 PM

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Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

I don't know about this. I wouldn't lie. What happens if she was offered a bid tomorrow by The Office, told them she needed to discuss finances with her parents, then was offered a bid by Parks & Rec the next day and was seen celebrating with them shortly after by members of The Office? I can't imagine they'd be too happy. No one wants to burn bridges on day 1.

I would have needed to discuss accepting a bid with my family to double check it was ok to take on that type of financial commitment. On a large campus, we didn't see COB bid celebrations. She is on a large campus, if my hunch is correct. If she is offered a bid by both she will have to tell one chapter she accepted the other's bid. As long as she's polite, I don't see any bridge burning. And no one has to accept a bid right away.

Titchou · #71 03-06-2014, 11:33 PM

She should tell both she needs to discuss it with her parents. Then she needs to decline one by saying that she was honored to be offered bids to two different groups. After talking with her parents, she has decided to accept AAA's bid. Many thanks for the opportunity to get to know you and your sisters. It was so much fun! I know we'll continue to be friends.

Goodness, ladies, there is always a proper way to decline an invitation.

IndianaSigKap · #72 03-06-2014, 11:33 PM

^^Like.

ASTalumna06 · #73 03-06-2014, 11:45 PM

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Originally Posted by IndianaSigKap

I would have needed to discuss accepting a bid with my family to double check it was ok to take on that type of financial commitment. On a large campus, we didn't see COB bid celebrations. She is on a large campus, if my hunch is correct. If she is offered a bid by both she will have to tell one chapter she accepted the other's bid. As long as she's polite, I don't see any bridge burning. And no one has to accept a bid right away.

Pictures/social media?

Just saying.

I just think she just has to say she's keeping her options open and she has other events to attend.

pinksequins · #74 03-07-2014, 01:18 AM

Agree with both Titchou and IndianaSigKap -- politely advising that you have commitments that you need to honor and that it is only right that you discuss the bid with your parents to ensure their personal (if not financial) support of your decision. Titchou stated a response that is honest, kind and polite.

AZTheta · #75 03-07-2014, 01:28 AM

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Originally Posted by pinksequins

Agree with both Titchou and IndianaSigKap -- politely advising that you have commitments that you need to honor and that it is only right that you discuss the bid with your parents to ensure their personal (if not financial) support of your decision. Titchou stated a response that is honest, kind and polite.

Ditto.