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Originally Posted by m8g2k4
I'm a sophomore at a really big southern school where Greek life is huge. I missed registration for rush when I was a freshmen, and my entire freshmen year I saw all of the fun that my friends who were in Greek life were having and it made me that much more excited to rush.
So this year, sophomore year, I rushed and everyone told me that everything happens for a reason and you'll get a bid from the sorority where you truly belong. I ended up getting a bid from a sorority that I liked during rush, but it was one of the only sororities that I didn't already know someone in.
My pledge class is over 100 girls and mainly freshmen. They're somewhat cliquey too. I've met a lot of nice girls in my sorority, but I just haven't found a close group of friends or anyone I feel super comfortable with yet. I've met a couple of other sophomore girls in my pledge class, but all of them had friends in the sorority previous to joining. All the older girls that I've talked to told me that you really start making friends spring semester, but we're already almost halfway through spring semester and I'm worried that I still will be the outsider by the end of the semester.
I really don't want to drop because I really was looking forward to being apart of a sorority and having sisters, but I'm nervous I'm wasting time and money to continue to feel as though I don't fit in.
Suggestions or advice???
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If you hadn't said the size of your pledge class I could have sworn you were describing my situation. Joined sophomore year, loved the chapter but didn't know anyone, the whole nine yards. Have you talked to your big about how you feel? I know that talking to mine and asking her to introduce me to my friends made me feel a lot better. It also might be that you won't bond with girls in your pledge class as much simply because you're older and in a different place than them-I'm an RA and already have a boyfriend, so the bonding younger girls have at frat parties isn't really there for me. I would also encourage you to get more involved if you aren't already. Have you run for a position, volunteered to be on the Bid Day committee, hung out at the house if you have one, agreed to move into the house next year if you can? You can't make friendships if you're never around and don't put yourself out there. Only if you've done all those things and still feel completely isolated would I tell you to consider dropping.
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