No bid

[thetalady]

Originally Posted by calgirl15

So I go to a CSU (California State University) and it is relatively small in size, as it its Greek life ( 3 sororities and 3 fraternities) and I rushed the same sorority twice.

The first time, I did not receive a bid because I did not get to know the girls as well as I could have.

The second time I rushed, I knew every single girl, I connected with them and they all were super friendly to me, they all knew me and I felt really good and better than I had done in the past.

I did not receive a bid and they send out an email saying that I either did not meet academic requirements (they require a 2.5 and I have a 3.2) and the other reason is they feel like they did not get to know me.

And now they act like nothing has changed between us and act like my best friend.

I'm not rushing again because I don't want to seem desperate. My question is, how do I get over it and move on from it?

Get involved in something else!! There have to be lots of activities on campus. Join a service organization, join a professional organization associated with your major, join a club that does an activity that you like. There are a million other things to do. Get up & get going!

[andthen]

Originally Posted by thetalady

Get involved in something else!! There have to be lots of activities on campus. Join a service organization, join a professional organization associated with your major, join a club that does an activity that you like. There are a million other things to do. Get up & get going!

OP yes I'm sure it stinks and hurts a bit to be rejected a second time. If your grades met the min. requirements the reason you got cut, is not something that anyone on this board can tell you since the criteria might be specific to the chapter and that's not discussed outside of that chapter.

I would explore your options and try and pursue something else, especially if you go to a mid-sized school I'm sure there are a variety of things. I would say give yourself some time to deal with the disappointment but don't let that take over your life.

Wishing you the best.

[erica812]

Yep...it does hurt. It stinks. I've been in a similar position. But sorority life isn't the end-all of college life; get out there and build a great experience. It might seem strange that the members are acting friendly after the fact, but isn't that actually a good thing? Having more friends is a positive...even if you don't share letters.

Good luck, hon.