Snow Plow Parents

[Katmandu]

I have friends and colleagues with collage aged children and they call/text multiple times a day about the most inane things. Constantly. Both children and mom. It's bizarre. They know every minute detail of the child's day... Food, classroom, what they wore, who said what to whom..... When my best friend and I are out shopping or for coffee, she will take or send at least a half dozen calls from young adult children. Fwap, fwap, fwap.

[ADqtPiMel]

Originally Posted by Katmandu

I have friends and colleagues with collage aged children and they call/text multiple times a day about the most inane things. Constantly. Both children and mom. It's bizarre. They know every minute detail of the child's day... Food, classroom, what they wore, who said what to whom..... When my best friend and I are out shopping or for coffee, she will take or send at least a half dozen calls from young adult children. Fwap, fwap, fwap.

See...my parents are essentially the opposite of helicopter parents. I've had zero financial assistance from them since graduating high school (worked full time through school), and they never cared at all what I did with my time or my money. But I do text with my mom every day, about really stupid stuff. I live 500 miles away and I like talking to my mom about the normal goofy stuff we talk about in person.

ETA -- I don't identify as a millenial, more like Gen X, though I'm on the cusp.

[KSUViolet06]

I had scholarships for most of school, but my dad footed the bill for stuff like dues, meal plan, etc. We talked like, bi-weekly (my dad couldn't helicopter me from CA.)

I saw my mom once every 2-3 weeks even though I lived 30 min away.

I'm actually impressed at how little my mom meddled in and checked up on my life given my age (I was 17 until Christmas break) and the fact that I was living on my own in dorm for the first time (but then again, I was a rather good student in HS so she had no reason to believe I was like, skipping class/not doing work/etc.)