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[AXOmom]

NorthernMom,

There are several threads on the site concerning the general question- Can someone manage a) fill in the blank activity, sport, job, major and b) a sorority. The answers on most of those threads vary greatly by my recollection because it depends so much on the school, the "fill in the blank", the specific chapter, and your child's personality.

My daughter was a college cheerleader her first year in school. She was not in a sorority at the time, but a couple of her teammates were. One managed both quite well; the other managed neither well and ended up getting kicked out of/off of both. I think the latter girl could have managed both fine because the cheer requirements at that school were pretty minimal - she just chose not to.

Like your daughter, mine transferred and wanted to join a sorority. She started off on the tumbling and acrobatic team at that school (a variation on competitive cheer). She quickly figured out she could not remotely handle both, but she is a person who needs a lot of study time and gets stressed fairly easily, so it just didn't work for her.

She knew of several girls at that school (including one in her chapter) who were on the school cheer squad and were in sororities, but inevitably it seemed, their sorority involvement was minor, and a good portion eventually dropped or were MIA for the most part; however, at that school there were a lot of PR requirements for the cheerleaders and the expectations were considerably higher than they were at her first school, so...yeah, different schools, different expectations, different kids, different results.

I wouldn't worry too much about that particular issue at this point. That's a several bridges down the river problem.