advice for an oos at an SEC school

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I know very few sororities who would say "no" to a sweet girl with a 3.8, leadership positions and good looks.
You and she need to remember that there are 1,000 other sweet, smart girls out there with the same things. Yes, literally. So the more preparation, the better, especially when it comes to sorority recruitment in the SEC. Keep talking to people...try to find some other Auburn/SEC folks for a more tailored view. All the groups at Auburn have all types of girls, from the party heartiers to the studious church-goers. She'll get a good experience in any of them.

DON'T step away from the spreadsheet for recs. It can be very helpful to keep everything straight. Keep asking around - a sorority alum does not have to be from the sorority's Auburn chapter. She can be from any chapter of that sorority. Once you find an alum, ask if she knows other sorority alumnae. Teachers, church friends, work friends - even ask men, because their wife-sister-mother-daughter-aunt-grandmother could be sorority members. Post a request on your Facebook page.

If Auburn has an alumni group in your area, you could possibly contact them for help and advice, not just on recs, but on sorority life at Auburn.

Something to remember about Auburn - Greek life is not quite the big deal it is at, say the University of Alabama. There are even honoraries and philanthropic groups that function similarly to NPC sororities.

No, it's not required for every PNM to wear Lilies and pearls! If that's not her style, that's fine. She just needs to be well put together and groomed, with tasteful, appropriate (not necessarily expensive!) outfits.

Unlike some ladies here, I think it's OK for mom to help with finding alums for recs. The student needs to not just hand it all off to mom, but it's a big job and the kids are usually pretty clueless. So a little help from mom is fine, I think.
Best of luck to your daughter!