First Time at Homecoming as a Neo

[NeoNeo]

The "resentful" part makes sense. I attended a HBCU, so homecoming is definitely a big deal. I mean if I wear para, do I avoid the plot and the tent because of the "inner circle" part, or is that doing too much and not being sisterly on my part? A line dance happens, do I not join in even though I know it too. I know it seems like small stuff, but it can really add up. I want to enjoy being in the sorority, even though I know I am not a member of that chapter.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by NeoNeo

The "resentful" part makes sense. I attended a HBCU, so homecoming is definitely a big deal. I mean if I wear para, do I avoid the plot and the tent because of the "inner circle" part, or is that doing too much and not being sisterly on my part? A line dance happens, do I not join in even though I know it too. I know it seems like small stuff, but it can really add up. I want to enjoy being in the sorority, even though I know I am not a member of that chapter.

There are some things you learn through observing and pass or fail.

Don't avoid the plot and places where the sorority is gathering. That will mean you are scared rather than playing it safe or deferring to chapter traditions. Be present and they will let you know when to take yourself on to the next location. LOL. Also don't stand around in awkward silence. After you make your presence known hug your Sorors goodbye and tell them you're going to walk around and may be back later.