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10-04-2013, 11:26 AM
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Allright, so out of the four she went to skit, maybe two for pref? and then she is hoping one of those will bid?
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Correct.
Good luck mommas! Getting into the stressful part of recruitment.
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10-04-2013, 11:27 AM
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Is it possible two will bid? Then what happens? I will be so happy for her when this week is over. I know she is exhausted and worried and all of that. This time next week she will know where she has landed.
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Reason: more to say!
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10-04-2013, 11:32 AM
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Is it possible two will bid? Then what happens? I will be so happy for her when this week is over. I know she is exhausted and worried and all of that. This time next week she will know where she has landed.
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It's a matching system, so PNMs can only receive ONE bid.
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10-04-2013, 11:33 AM
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So if there would be one she would really not like, don't rank in the three and then that won't be the bid?
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10-04-2013, 11:49 AM
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*paging Titchou/ksuviolet/DBB/carnation/AZ-Alpha xi/all other GCresident experts on RFM!!!!* We have some confusion here, please explain! I would but it's too hard to type one-handed.
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10-04-2013, 11:59 AM
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So if there would be one she would really not like, don't rank in the three and then that won't be the bid?
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There are better people to ask about RFM than me, but I think I can explain this one.
If she doesn't list a group on her bid card, she is not eligible to receive a bid from them. It's the only time in the process that a PNM is actually cutting a group. That has consequences, though, so all PNMs are encouraged to list all of the groups that have preffed them.
If she attends all parties that she is invited to attend, and lists all of the sororities that she prefs on her bid card, she is guaranteed a bid somewhere. If she doesn't match on the bid lists, she will be placed somewhere. Different schools handle that differently. Some place the "extra" women in their first choice, and some use other methods. They try to keep the chapters balanced.
If she doesn't list all of the sororities that she preffed, she is not guaranteed a bid. If she doesn't place, she doesn't place. She will remain eligible for COB (informal rush, open rush, whatever you want to call it) and eligible for colony recruitment.
If she hates one of her pref groups, she should understand that she may get a bid from them if she lists them.
She should think very carefully about whether she hates them or whether she just doesn't like them as much as her other choice(s). If she lists a group on her bid card, and then refuses a bid from them, she will not be eligible for COB for one year or for colony recruitment this year.
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10-04-2013, 12:02 PM
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^^^ Yes! Calling all of the above to come on over here and explain the situation to these poor worried moms!!
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10-04-2013, 12:33 PM
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There are better people to ask about RFM than me, but I think I can explain this one.
If she doesn't list a group on her bid card, she is not eligible to receive a bid from them. It's the only time in the process that a PNM is actually cutting a group. That has consequences, though, so all PNMs are encouraged to list all of the groups that have preffed them.
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Yes! The consequence for not "maximizing your options" and listing all of the places that you preffed at is that you are not eligible for quota additions. Quota additions is set up to help more PNMs get bids AND more of them to get their first choice from pref night. The way quota additions works is that if you do not match the top of one of your pref groups listed, the RFM specialist will still place you in one of the places you preffed. As long as nothing SUPER AWKWARD comes out pref night, QA rules say you should get a bid.
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If she attends all parties that she is invited to attend, and lists all of the sororities that she prefs on her bid card, she is guaranteed a bid somewhere.
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Originally Posted by KDCat
If she doesn't list all of the sororities that she preffed, she is not guaranteed a bid. If she doesn't place, she doesn't place. She will remain eligible for COB (informal rush, open rush, whatever you want to call it) and eligible for colony recruitment.
If she hates one of her pref groups, she should understand that she may get a bid from them if she lists them.
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All the groups at Ole Miss are awesome! - but maybe she would rather try for ADPi? She is not assured of getting a bid if she applies to ADPi - they will pick founding mothers carefully.
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She should think very carefully about whether she hates them or whether she just doesn't like them as much as her other choice(s). If she lists a group on her bid card, and then refuses a bid from them, she will not be eligible for COB for one year or for colony recruitment this year.
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Yep. Lots of us didn't get our first choice and turned out fine. Maybe you didn't hit it off with one girl who rushed you but you would be a superstar and the next Elle Woods in their new pledge class?
ETA: Another way to say it - we're almost home! Early rounds the chapter is making a lot of the cuts. Pref night - a lot of the choice switches to the PNM where she needs to think about which one is her favorite of her pref groups
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10-04-2013, 12:36 PM
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Originally Posted by KDCat
There are better people to ask about RFM than me, but I think I can explain this one.
If she doesn't list a group on her bid card, she is not eligible to receive a bid from them. It's the only time in the process that a PNM is actually cutting a group. That has consequences, though, so all PNMs are encouraged to list all of the groups that have preffed them.
If she attends all parties that she is invited to attend, and lists all of the sororities that she prefs on her bid card, she is guaranteed a bid somewhere. If she doesn't match on the bid lists, she will be placed somewhere. Different schools handle that differently. Some place the "extra" women in their first choice, and some use other methods. They try to keep the chapters balanced.
If she doesn't list all of the sororities that she preffed, she is not guaranteed a bid. If she doesn't place, she doesn't place. She will remain eligible for COB (informal rush, open rush, whatever you want to call it) and eligible for colony recruitment.
If she hates one of her pref groups, she should understand that she may get a bid from them if she lists them.
She should think very carefully about whether she hates them or whether she just doesn't like them as much as her other choice(s). If she lists a group on her bid card, and then refuses a bid from them, she will not be eligible for COB for one year or for colony recruitment this year.
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KDCat's information is spot on... this is how RFM works.
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10-04-2013, 01:01 PM
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If she hates one of her pref groups, she should understand that she may get a bid from them if she lists them.
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And just to clarify, "hates" does not mean "these girls are OK but I'm not sure I click with them." "Hates" means "I would rather eat ground glass and be exiled to a desert island than be part of this group." At super competitive schools, you really need to be on that level of not wanting the group to not put them on your card because it may be your only shot of getting a bid.
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10-04-2013, 01:11 PM
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And just to clarify, "hates" does not mean "these girls are OK but I'm not sure I click with them." "Hates" means "I would rather eat ground glass and be exiled to a desert island than be part of this group." At super competitive schools, you really need to be on that level of not wanting the group to not put them on your card because it may be your only shot of getting a bid.
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And the chapters are HUGE and the new member classes are HUGE, so most women can find friends if they just bide their time and look around. Recruitment is the start of the process of finding a home, not the end.
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10-04-2013, 01:14 PM
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And the chapters are HUGE and the new member classes are HUGE, so most women can find friends if they just bide their time and look around. Recruitment is the start of the process of finding a home, not the end.
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That is what I told my DD.
In a group of 100 girls, there will be all types from the party girls to the studious ones. Surely you will find some like you.
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10-04-2013, 01:19 PM
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The chapters at Ole Miss, once recruitment is over, are mostly in the 250-300 member range. If you can't find 6-8 women to be friends out of that many then something is wrong with you, not them.
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10-04-2013, 02:24 PM
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And just to clarify, "hates" does not mean "these girls are OK but I'm not sure I click with them." "Hates" means "I would rather eat ground glass and be exiled to a desert island than be part of this group." At super competitive schools, you really need to be on that level of not wanting the group to not put them on your card because it may be your only shot of getting a bid.
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Nor does it mean "these girls are OK but I listened to too much tent talk and think I'm too good for this chapter." Every group at Ole Miss is huge, has a gorgeous house, and will provide an awesome experience to its members.
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10-04-2013, 02:36 PM
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Do they go back to grove/union today or just first house on their schedule?
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