A very Berry recruitment

[Hearttoheart]

@thetalady - my daughter had a blast yesterday. I'm anxiously waiting to hear from her tonight. So far only one house that she can't see herself in.

@elvislover - yep, you are correct. We have to sit on pins and needles until after tomorrow nights parties to see which one they attended. Somehow I think it's better this way. I can think positively and she can regroup and call me after she has had time to take it all in.

Can't wait to hear if they are keeping dry! Pretty sure my daughter is not the only one having a bad hair day! Lol.

Rebelpnm -I can't wait to hear your story. Good luck!

[rebelpnm]

Originally Posted by ElvisLover

This has got to be the longest three days for the moms. From what I've gathered, the pnms won't find out what they got back until right before skit parties tomorrow. So, unless they find a way around it, they won't be able to text or call home about what parties they attended until after the parties are over tomorrow night. Is this correct?

We receive our schedules at 3 and rounds do not start until 4 pm. however, during that time, we are not allowed back to our dorms where our cell phones and other means of communication are. So basically our moms wont know which houses we have until after we have already had some of them (or not). You can have all of your parties for skit in one day surprisingly. Hopefully that does not happen to me!

[clemsongirl]

I think you have Cranberry listed in both your top six and bottom three rebelpnm? Best of luck to you for tomorrow!

[rebelpnm]

Not to triple post, but since this is my story, I guess I can. what advice do you women have for nerves? Because I am pretty confident person, and I know my resume was good (like every other girls) and I got all my rec's in...But I cant help thinking that in the short time I had with these women, did I say anything that made me sound any different than any other girls? And the answer is not really which makes me VERY nervous about being invited back to any houses tomorrow, let alone those that are in my top 6.

[rebelpnm]

Originally Posted by clemsongirl

I think you have Cranberry listed in both your top six and bottom three rebelpnm? Best of luck to you for tomorrow!

Thank you Clemsongirl! I have edited the post. My apologies for any confusion. I am just so tired and my mind is not operating to its fullest ability.

[clemsongirl]

Originally Posted by rebelpnm

Thank you Clemsongirl! I have edited the post. My apologies for any confusion. I am just so tired and my mind is not operating to its fullest ability.

I don't blame you in the slightest! The best advice I can think of (since my mind is also not operating to its fullest ability) is to take a deep breath and-as hard as it is-accept that there is nothing more you can do about it right now. There's no way to know what magical conversation topic would make you memorable in the right way, and what's done is done and cannot be changed. Even if you did know what to talk about and when to say it, you can't go back in time to do so. If you can find a distracting or engrossing activity like a book or homework, throw yourself into that. Try to keep your mind off of replaying could-haves and should-haves, because that can't help you any more now.

As difficult as it is to acknowledge that you are not really in control of your recruitment results, it is true. All you can do is be your best self and let that shine in your conversations. A little anxiety is understandable, but don't let it become all-consuming.

Sending you good wishes and luck!

[WCsweet<3]

Do the best you can do. Be the best you can be. Trust the system. Try to make connections. Ask questions that aren't super basic. Pay attention to the things the actives say and follow up.

There is nothing you can do now so don't analyze every conversation. Yes, I know this is silly to say, but try! They expect the PNMs to be nervous. Actives remember the weirdest things. I still remember a conversation I had about shoes and the best shoe stores in the campus town. Another I remember because she actually asked about sisterhood and was the first PNM to do so.

You want to end up where you belong, not where you have to try hard every day. Be yourself and have active listening skills with followup questions.

[ladybug12]

Originally Posted by rebelpnm

Thank you Clemsongirl! I have edited the post. My apologies for any confusion. I am just so tired and my mind is not operating to its fullest ability.

Just take your invitations to skit and focus on the chapters you have rather than the chapters that you may not have. Honestly, all groups at Ole Miss are wonderful. And, I am sure that ADPi is going to do very well. Keep all of your options open.

Sending good thoughts your way!

[thetalady]

In addition to WCSweet's advice about not over analyzing, don't obsess over being the mechanics of rush: being double rushed, whether or not the chapter president or rush chairman spoke to you, or whether you were bumped twice or three times... and OMG DID THAT GIRL GET BUMPED MORE THAN ME?

Breathe deep! Be yourself, so that you shine in your own way. Be honest. Be yourself. Look for a group of girls what seems most like who you ARE.

[Alpha O]

I agree with what everyone has already said about doing the best you can do, not over-analyzing, and trusting the system. Trusting the system includes something WCsweet<3 mentioned--the fact that actives may expect you to be a little nervous...and that's okay! If you need an analogy for reassurance, it's similar to a job interviewer who knows that the candidate might be a bit nervous during the interviews.

The other thing might make you feel better is that you and the other PNMs might not be the only ones who are a bit nervous. Some of the sisters who are talking to you might be a bit nervous too! I know this can be the case for some sisters, especially ones for whom it is their first recruitment "on the other side" or ones who might be more shy/introverted.

As far as calming nerves when not at recruitment events, I think you just need to accept that you're doing the best you can and keep it out of your mind! I am the queen of over-analyzing things, so I know first-hand how hard it can be to keep things simple, but really just try your best not to over-analyze recruitment-related events. Study, watch TV, exercise, meditate, have a laugh with your friends, etc.

The most practical suggestion I can make is the following: if you do have time that you can spend over-analyzing recruitment-related things, use that time to keep up with and even get a little ahead in your studies if possible. That way, after you've hopefully accepted your bid, you'll have a little more leeway/extra time to hang out with your new sisters.

[rebelpnm]

Thank you ladies! I will definitely try and keep these things in mind while I wait for 3pm to roll around.

[rebelpnm]

Just so you all know, there was no knock!

[LuvMyPNM]

oh thanks -- I was just going to ask when knocks are made. Hoping my PNM there isn't disturbed either! All the best!

[rebelpnm]

For future reference, the knocks come at 6 am.

[ColdInCanada11]

6am? I'm a morning person but that seems cruel