University of Mississippi - Ole Miss Panhellenic Sorority Recruitment 2013 - Page 44

olemissmom2017 · #**646** 10-02-2013, 10:02 AM

Yes, we're NOLA Katrina refugees! Miss it so much!

thetalady · #**647** 10-02-2013, 12:47 PM

The moms hiding in the bushes is an issue DURING rush, not after receiving their bids. They were trying to influence their daughters' decisions during the rush process. Bad Bad Bad moms! I am waiting for the day that an overly invested mom gets too excited and makes the run to the house on Bid Day WITH her DD

newbierebmom · #**648** 10-02-2013, 01:02 PM

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Originally Posted by thetalady

The moms hiding in the bushes is an issue DURING rush, not after receiving their bids. They were trying to influence their daughters' decisions during the rush process. Bad Bad Bad moms! I am waiting for the day that an overly invested mom gets too excited and makes the run to the house on Bid Day WITH her DD

Thanks for the explanation!!

Hearttoheart · #**649** 10-02-2013, 02:52 PM

okay, I get the whole not hiding in the bushes, but why can't we just hang out in Union Plaza/Grove and sneak a peek at their invite lists? Seems ashamed if we are in town on Saturday that we can't simply ask our daughters which houses they are going to? Is this not allowed?

I obviously didn't get the message that presents were needed each day of the week! We sent flowers and are sending bid day gifts, but every day??? Does that make me a bad mom?

OleMissGlitter · #**650** 10-02-2013, 03:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Hearttoheart

okay, I get the whole not hiding in the bushes, but why can't we just hang out in Union Plaza/Grove and sneak a peek at their invite lists? Seems ashamed if we are in town on Saturday that we can't simply ask our daughters which houses they are going to? Is this not allowed?

I obviously didn't get the message that presents were needed each day of the week! We sent flowers and are sending bid day gifts, but every day??? Does that make me a bad mom?

You are not a bad mom if you didn't send your daughter gifts everyday! I know way back in 1996 my parents didn't know about all of gifts either and I got flowers instead! You will have plenty of time (think b-day/holidays) to shower her with gifts with her new sorority letters!

I personally would not hang out in the Union when they get their invite list. Remember this week is for YOUR daughter not for you. If she wants to tell you where she is going each round she can text you when the parties are over or the next day. But I would give her space. Plus, you don't want to look like a helicopter parent! Who knows if Panhellenic will ask you to leave but I'm going to think they will ask you to leave. Maybe I feel this way because I've been an advisor for so long I can understand how a PNM needs her privacy. Let her find her own home. ALL of the sororities at Ole Miss are amazing so she cannot go wrong. Have faith in her and she will find her new home!

newbierebmom · #**651** 10-02-2013, 06:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Hearttoheart

I obviously didn't get the message that presents were needed each day of the week! We sent flowers and are sending bid day gifts, but every day??? Does that make me a bad mom?

No I don't think so.... I think it's an excellent marketing ploy by Lily Pad and I confess I fell for it hook, line and sinker.

I only knew about it b/c we visited on Parents weekend and saw the sign. I checked with my DD's roommate's mom and she didn't know about it either.

FSUZeta · #**652** 10-02-2013, 07:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Hearttoheart

okay, I get the whole not hiding in the bushes, but why can't we just hang out in Union Plaza/Grove and sneak a peek at their invite lists? Seems ashamed if we are in town on Saturday that we can't simply ask our daughters which houses they are going to? Is this not allowed?

I obviously didn't get the message that presents were needed each day of the week! We sent flowers and are sending bid day gifts, but every day??? Does that make me a bad mom?

I think your first paragraph was said tongue in cheek, and I chuckled when I read it. The sad thing is that there probably are mothers who think nothing of trying to choreograph their daughters recruitment and not giving their poor daughters a moment to themselves. Can you imagine? Poor girls!

I wouldn't worry about not purchasing the daily rush week gifts. What a brilliant marketing ploy by the local business! Letting her phone you or sending you text messages and being generally supportive is much more important.

thetalady · #**653** 10-02-2013, 07:39 PM

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Originally Posted by FSUZeta

I wouldn't worry about not purchasing the daily rush week gifts. What a brilliant marketing ploy by the local business! Letting her phone you or sending you text messages and being generally supportive is much more important.

AMEN!!!! What manipulation by the local Greek store

msmom · #**654** 10-02-2013, 10:12 PM

Well, I saw the sign, too, at Orientation. I talked to my DD's roommate's mom. We decided to send flowers at the beginning and letter gifts on bid day (Lord willing, they get a bid). Nothing in between as our girls don't like or need more "stuff" in their room. Most of our friends are doing the same or maybe sending one mid-week gift. I'm just saying this so anyone reading these posts doesn't feel like their girl is being neglected if she isn't showered with gifts all week. We chose gifts that we'd probably end up buying anyway (tshirt, car decal, etc) from Lily Pad. Frankly, I'd rather not ours be the ones with over the top bid week gifts/attention. It's a gift to be at Ole Miss and going through rush, right? And from all I hear, the girls are having a blast. Fingers crossed, prayers that all will find a happy home.

msmom · #**655** 10-02-2013, 10:13 PM

And most of my friends are heading up Friday night or Saturday morning and plan to lay low til Sunday afternoon. It IS about the girls and nothing we do/say is really necessary at this point. We've agreed having dinner out/comparing notes is not a good thing for any of us. Hope we can stick to it!

newbierebmom · #**656** 10-02-2013, 10:30 PM

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Originally Posted by msmom

And most of my friends are heading up Friday night or Saturday morning and plan to lay low til Sunday afternoon. It IS about the girls and nothing we do/say is really necessary at this point. We've agreed having dinner out/comparing notes is not a good thing for any of us. Hope we can stick to it!

So where do the semi-helicopter (glider? counselor? photographer?) moms gather on Sunday afternoon who don't want to influence their daughter's choices but just wants to be there to share in their hopeful joy??

In the circle?

On the steps of say Bryant Hall -- so we can see them as they run to Sorority Row or in the event of no bid, quickly swoop them off campus, ducking behind Fulton Hall and the Union??

On the Union Plaza??

msmom · #**657** 10-02-2013, 10:47 PM

We are all in the same boat. I've been told we will "know" where to be but I don't want to take a chance. Any advice GC advisors? If all the houses were on the same row it'd be simpler, right?

olemissmom2017 · #**658** 10-02-2013, 11:08 PM

Yes, this is an excellent question. Where do I go wait all by my lonesome? Someone should organize a concurrent moms social event (complete with gifts, lol) to a)keep moms busy and away from girls, and b) to keep moms entertained since they are not to be clinging to daughters. Oooh, wait, this is an excellent business idea for next year!

newbierebmom · #**659** 10-02-2013, 11:15 PM

olemissmom2017: great idea! We can go sit in union lobby and watch the Saints play the Bears. Kickoff is noon. Game should end around 3 then we can watch the run toward the houses.....

newbierebmom · #**660** 10-02-2013, 11:18 PM

Go to Youtube and search Ole Miss Rush.....

Two good ones to give you an idea about bid day:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cCdtE2or13Q

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LCW470rIwV8