Big/little match issues

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Originally Posted by LittlePuppy

I may just be having a rough day, but we were given our little offers late last night. We had a really big pledge class and there were twins with everyone taking a little, so even though I wasn't exactly estatic with who I got I felt I couldn't say no. But I've been thinking and having anxiety about it all day.

See, I talked to all of our new members a lot except for a few girls who always seemed mia when I was around - this is one of the girls I didn't talk to. Additionally, I've been social media stalking her all day and we really have NOTHING in common. She played sports, is way into sports, likes completely different tv shows, movies, and music genres, is really into drama, and doesn't seem to enjoy the same things I do at all.

I'm not trying to be superficial here, but I don't see how I can be a great big to her at all. I have a feeling she didn't even pref me as a big - like I wouldn't even know who this girl was if I wasn't at nme last week! The only thing we have in common is our major and that's not saying much as I'm not friends with everybody who has the same major as me!

I don't know if I should try talking to the girls who did the big little pairings or just suck it up and do my best to be amazing. Honestly at this point I dont know if there is anything that can be changed. I'd really rather not have a little this semester than be a terrible big though.

This is going to be tough love but you need to suck it up. Being a Big Sis is not about you. When you agree to be matched as a Big sis, you agree that it's about supporting and mentoring the new members. That is the purpose and spirit of having Little Sisters. It's not "I'll support and mentor you if you're the one that I want."

It is not about you and if you honestly are planning to be less than enthusiastic about this young lady because you don't know much about her, you need to examine your motives for ever wanting to be a Big. You're making this about you, and it's not.

Every Big & Little are not perfect matches, best friends, etc. That really is not what it's about. I think that somewhere along the way, collegians have gotten into "oh my gosh, my little and I must be BEST FRIENDS EVER!" or "My life is over because I didn't get my number 1 Big choice or my number 1 little." It's not.

So in summary. It's about her.

Good luck!