As a man... word of advice: if you have a shimmering of a doubt, check. Love can be very blind, and cover a multitude of shortcomings.
As for the system being abused, that shouldn't be a problem. Since I do criminal checks as part of my job responsibilty, it is relatively safe, and is quite easy if you have permission.
I know this sounds harsh, but too many women have lost their lives because they ignored their intuition, and basic common sense.
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