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You have met a very small percentage of the chapter. I am 100% sure you are kind, mature, and interesting enough to find a great group of girls in any of these chapters that you click with. I know it feels crappy to not be "clicking" with the chapters you get back like it seems like every other girls is (tip: they're not), and it's normal for you to react that way, but there are things you can do to make things better more quickly.
During recruitment, every single chapter has one goal: make you fall in love with us. Regardless of how we feel about each PNM, we want her to leave feeling totally comfortable and at home with our ladies. If it's a girl we're not necessarily interested in, maybe she has a friend or roommate we really like and we don't want her to have any negative impressions of us. Maybe we just want all the future NMs to have positive opinions of us. Some chapters are exceedingly good at this, but others just aren't. Once recruitment is over and the polish and shine goes away, many things change.
At this point, the best thing you can do is pick yourself up, go into those parties like these are the only three chapters on campus, and (if you get a bid) truly commit to your new member education. Make a serious effort to bond with your pledge class and the older sisters.
The way we do formal recruitment can be annoying and superficial at times, but it operates under the assumption that a bid from any chapter on campus is an honor. You are not "settling" for any group and you need to stop thinking that way ASAP. Cry it out if that's your thing, do some thinking, and when you realize this is true you'll have a great time on bid day.
(Ahem)
And yes, most likely the chapters you "clicked with" are the ones that are very good at making girls feel comfortable and at home and won't be doing informal. Formal recruitment is not real life.
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