UNC Chapel Hill Recruitment

[UNCalum]

Recruitment ended last night with Bid Day. From what I've heard, a HUGE amount of girls dropped out before the process was over. It seems that they had their hearts set on a few "upper tier" sororities and didn't feel like any of the other amazing houses were worth exploring. Where does this mentality come from? Are we teaching our daughters that they are better than other girls? There has been a lot of talk about not "settling" for a mid or lower tier sorority. Who decides tiers anyway? Can you tell I'm frustrated? I'd love to know statistics of how many girls started Recruitment and how many accepted a bid.

[IndianaSigKap]

Originally Posted by UNCalum

Recruitment ended last night with Bid Day. From what I've heard, a HUGE amount of girls dropped out before the process was over. It seems that they had their hearts set on a few "upper tier" sororities and didn't feel like any of the other amazing houses were worth exploring. Where does this mentality come from? Are we teaching our daughters that they are better than other girls? There has been a lot of talk about not "settling" for a mid or lower tier sorority. Who decides tiers anyway? Can you tell I'm frustrated? I'd love to know statistics of how many girls started Recruitment and how many accepted a bid.

This whole "nothing but the best mentality" is in line with the sense of entitlement SOME kids are growing up with today. Who creates this attitude? The parents in many instances. Their children are an extension of themselves, so they make sure the kids are over programmed in the best activities, go to the right schools, have the right clothes, etc. What happened to teaching kindness and giving back for the sake of doing the right thing, not because it will look good on a resume?

How can intelligent young women not see that the different Greek organizations are more alike than different? Aren't students at UNC supposed to be best of the best? Doesn't sound like there are any leaders in the group. A smart group should be able to figure out that each year the house changes by 25%. A strong group of girls would recruit girls like them and in three years, the chapter would be almost totally different.

[Lovethesand]

My daughter has friends in various sororities throughout the country and I'd like to share some of their recruitment thinking which boggles the mind:

1. Almost all have visited THAT website and read what THAT website says about tiers, rankings, who is good, who is awful, etc. per THAT website. Even when told to disregard THAT website by this forum or others that website is already in their heads and the damage may already be done. I talked to a PNM who knew nothing about Greek life and she talked about that website. Once she found out about it from another PNM she visited it religiously. She read every single post about fraternities, sororities, etc. and that was her Greek bible. She even had her mom hooked on it and as she went through recruitment she referred back to THAT website. I told her and her mother there was a lot of vile garbage there and she should keep an open mind. Her daughter told my daughter that it was a bunch of old women telling them to ignore THAT website. I unfortunately think a lot of these young adults share that same sentiment about THAT site (it's the Bible) and those who tell them it ignore it (clueless, out of touch).

2. Tent talk is huge. Even when told to close your ears and not listen to tent talk the tent talk is rampant and girls hear things. Not as vile as #1 above but a similar vein.

According to my friends and their daughters half seemed to have made their minds up before they even went to school based on social media. The other half seemed to be heavily swayed by tent talk. One girl said "nobody wants to be in THAT house, they're all awkward (seems to be the current negative word)". If they can't have what they want then they'd rather do without all together. Maybe it's a princess generation but open-mindedness doesn't seem to be a strong trait for some.

[UNCalum]

Originally Posted by Lovethesand

My daughter has friends in various sororities throughout the country and I'd like to share some of their recruitment thinking which boggles the mind:

1. Almost all have visited THAT website and read what THAT website says about tiers, rankings, who is good, who is awful, etc. per THAT website. Even when told to disregard THAT website by this forum or others that website is already in their heads and the damage may already be done. I talked to a PNM who knew nothing about Greek life and she talked about that website. Once she found out about it from another PNM she visited it religiously. She read every single post about fraternities, sororities, etc. and that was her Greek bible. She even had her mom hooked on it and as she went through recruitment she referred back to THAT website. I told her and her mother there was a lot of vile garbage there and she should keep an open mind. Her daughter told my daughter that it was a bunch of old women telling them to ignore THAT website. I unfortunately think a lot of these young adults share that same sentiment about THAT site (it's the Bible) and those who tell them it ignore it (clueless, out of touch).

2. Tent talk is huge. Even when told to close your ears and not listen to tent talk the tent talk is rampant and girls hear things. Not as vile as #1 above but a similar vein.

According to my friends and their daughters half seemed to have made their minds up before they even went to school based on social media. The other half seemed to be heavily swayed by tent talk. One girl said "nobody wants to be in THAT house, they're all awkward (seems to be the current negative word)". If they can't have what they want then they'd rather do without all together. Maybe it's a princess generation but open-mindedness doesn't seem to be a strong trait for some.

This is SO true! Another fallout from this year's Recruitment is girls not accepting their bids. They preffed a house, ranked it and on bid day when they opened their envelopes....they just didn't show up at the house afterwards. The houses didn't know what to make of it. Lots of preparation (and money) had gone into bid day festivities at trampoline parks, movie theaters, farms, etc. including transportation arrangements. Lots of TIME had gone into making door decorations for dorms, nametags and crafts for new ''babies", etc. Not to mention the fact that they waited and waited before going to these places to make sure no one was left behind. It's so incredibly RUDE to just ignore a group of women that stuck their neck out for you and extended a valuable invitation to join their sisterhood. If these girls that think they are too good for the house where they were offered a bid expect to do well in next year's recruitment, they have another think coming (as my Dad would say!) Sororities talk.

[cinder1965]

Originally Posted by UNCalum

This is SO true! Another fallout from this year's Recruitment is girls not accepting their bids. They preffed a house, ranked it and on bid day when they opened their envelopes....they just didn't show up at the house afterwards. The houses didn't know what to make of it. Lots of preparation (and money) had gone into bid day festivities at trampoline parks, movie theaters, farms, etc. including transportation arrangements. Lots of TIME had gone into making door decorations for dorms, nametags and crafts for new ''babies", etc. Not to mention the fact that they waited and waited before going to these places to make sure no one was left behind. It's so incredibly RUDE to just ignore a group of women that stuck their neck out for you and extended a valuable invitation to join their sisterhood. If these girls that think they are too good for the house where they were offered a bid expect to do well in next year's recruitment, they have another think coming (as my Dad would say!) Sororities talk.

Wow, just didn't show up??? That is beyond rude.