honeymoon fundraising

[AZTheta]

Are you freaking kidding me?

That's just awfully ... awfully ... annoying.

[FSUZeta]

I attended an Italian wedding where the bride carried a string purse at the reception and men put cash in the bag to dance with the bride. I had never seen this done before and I was sort of

TonyB06, is this what you were referring to?

[TonyB06]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

I attended an Italian wedding where the bride carried a string purse at the reception and men put cash in the bag to dance with the bride. I had never seen this done before and I was sort of

TonyB06, is this what you were referring to?

Yep. It happens a lot at Black receptions as well. Usually you give the money to a bridesmaid or someone who is holding a container, before you dance with the bride. Or you pin the money on her wedding gown, or whatever she's changed into.

If I want to make a transaction, I'll go to PNC Bank. Not that I haven't done it for brides I really like (it is a festive occasion), but it just makes me feel some kinda way about it.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by TonyB06

If I want to make a transaction, I'll go to PNC Bank. Not that I haven't done it for brides I really like (it is a festive occasion), but it just makes me feel some kinda way about it.

As you should. It is misogynist and treats the bride as property.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by TonyB06

Yep. It happens a lot at Black receptions as well. Usually you give the money to a bridesmaid or someone who is holding a container, before you dance with the bride. Or you pin the money on her wedding gown, or whatever she's changed into.

I've never seen it at a Black wedding, and I've been to my share all over the country. The only wedding I've seen it happen was at a Filipino wedding. The bride didn't want it, but her parents did.

My opinion on this stuff is highly documented on GC. Do y'all remember my tantrum about the treadmill?

[Sciencewoman]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

And then there are the people who buy picnic baskets... And then you just hope you can figure out what store it's from.

We received 3 picnic baskets for wedding gifts. Hopefully 3 picnickers who visited Goodwill felt they were getting a good deal. I tried keeping one for a while, to carry potluck items in, but it just didn't work well.

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

My opinion on this stuff is highly documented on GC. Do y'all remember my tantrum about the treadmill?

The same money tree shower couple had some items on their registry that raised my eyebrows...a lot of sporting equipment and alcohol-related items (decanters, shot glasses, etc.).

[AOIIalum]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

My opinion on this stuff is highly documented on GC. Do y'all remember my tantrum about the treadmill?

No, but now I feel the need to find it.

We're at that age where friends of our older boys are starting to get engaged. Of course I still think they're ALL too young, but when more and more are college and grad school graduates I guess maybe they aren't. I just hope we never see a honeymoon cash grab from any of them, because Momma AOIIAlum will give them an earful.

[lovespink88]

I'm on board with tacky!

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

I don't see why a HM registry is any tackier than a standard gift registry. Either one is pretty much saying "we picked stuff out for you to buy us."

I think the difference in this scenario only is the fact that the bride is repeatedly posting about it, asking for donations.

Originally Posted by Missouri Ivy

One of my APhi sisters is getting married next month and was just asking opinions about the dollar dance today. While I don't really like the tradition, the older generations around here pretty much expect it to happen. One friend had a suggestion of donating the money from the dollar dance to a charity.

Also, in my neck of the woods, the groom dances too. My poor husband danced with all of my great aunts. It was kind of sweet though.

Agreed.

The next morning after my wedding I found $200 in a bank envelope in my bag. After texting around I had come to find out it was from my uncle--it was our wedding gift from him and he was going to give it to me during the dollar dance. Little did he know I was anti dollar dance so he just gave it to my mom to put in my bag. I made a mental note to acknowledge it in my thank you note.

He passed away unexpectedly a month later. The last time I saw him was my wedding. I know there's no way I could have known, but I still feel so guilty that I didn't have that dance with him. I barely talked to him with all the other busyness of the day.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by AOIIalum

No, but now I feel the need to find it.

We're at that age where friends of our older boys are starting to get engaged. Of course I still think they're ALL too young, but when more and more are college and grad school graduates I guess maybe they aren't. I just hope we never see a honeymoon cash grab from any of them, because Momma AOIIAlum will give them an earful.

I found it and bumped it on the Random Wedding Thread. It was an espresso maker and a treadmill, along with hiking clothes for their Macchu Picchu honeymoon.

[adpiucf]

I'll never forget my cousin's Amazon registry and his wife (who barely anyone in the family had met) registering for a stripper pole for strip-aerobics. I sent them a vacuum HOSE attachment.


Some things should be left off the registry.

[WVU alpha phi]

My friend (she and her fiance both have great jobs and are not at all hurting for money) is doing this to finance her 2 week honeymoon to Greece. I think it's the tackiest thing ever. Receiving cash/checks as wedding gifts and using that towards your honeymoon is fine, but asking people to "buy us a gift card for this 5 star restaurant!" is so tacky to me.

Don't even get me started on the money dance.

[ADPi95]

Originally Posted by WVU alpha phi

My friend (she and her fiance both have great jobs and are not at all hurting for money) is doing this to finance her 2 week honeymoon to Greece. I think it's the tackiest thing ever. Receiving cash/checks as wedding gifts and using that towards your honeymoon is fine, but asking people to "buy us a gift card for this 5 star restaurant!" is so tacky to me.

Don't even get me started on the money dance.

Speaking of buying a gift card for a 5 star restaurant. The DH and I are going to our friends wedding in a few weeks. I thought it would be a great idea to get them a gift card for a restaurant we know they are going to on their honeymoon instead of a gift (Our Idea. That way, they'll know we're thinking of them on their trip). So I looked up the info online and gift cards started at $750!!! Not, $75, but $750! Yikes! Yeah, we decided that they can pay for their own meal and we'll figure something else out!

Back to the OP. It is extremely tacky. The DH and I didn't get a honeymoon because we couldn't afford it. A lot of people don't go on honeymoons. One day we will and it'll be that much more satisfying when we pay for it ourselves.