UGA 2013 Sorority Recruitment

ToujoursSK · #1 08-11-2013, 04:34 PM

Close friend's daughter had a full schedule all the way through, including her legacy house. But, to our great surprise legacy house released her after third round. I had never heard of that happening, nor had the mother, and although it was not her first choice, there were hurt feelings today that it was handled that way. It is not a house that traditionally has huge numbers of legacies coming through, so I am puzzled as to the thought process. Still, she went to prefs at 3 houses she liked very much, so hopefully all will end well.

BraveMaroon · #2 08-11-2013, 05:21 PM

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Originally Posted by ToujoursSK

Close friend's daughter had a full schedule all the way through, including her legacy house. But, to our great surprise legacy house released her after third round. I had never heard of that happening, nor had the mother, and although it was not her first choice, there were hurt feelings today that it was handled that way. It is not a house that traditionally has huge numbers of legacies coming through, so I am puzzled as to the thought process. Still, she went to prefs at 3 houses she liked very much, so hopefully all will end well.

This happened to my roommate at UGA back 20 years ago. She was multiple legacy to a house that had, unfortunately, more legacies than space. She got cut the night before prefs and her mother was blowing up our phone trying to reach her.

It sucked. It sucked for all of her family members who were XYZ, and it sucked for her, and it sucked for me because I was really happy with my parties and had to keep my happiness on low.

She got knocked from her favorite non-legacy house as well, and ended up quitting rush. She told me she didn't want to tell me where she'd been invited because "They're both houses *you* like!" - the tone doesn't come out, but she wasn't being kind.

I ended up tickled pink, and she never went anywhere - I think she'd have been happy at either place - because, you know as soon as she walked out of the room I turned over her scheduled and took a peek.

Lovethesand · #3 08-11-2013, 06:16 PM

Instead of focusing on what their options are, some PNMs focus too much on what they no longer have. I sometimes think the hurt/rejection is stronger than the acceptance/we want you. I think it is normal but recruitment teaches young women that they have to adjust quickly and move on or get left behind. Life lessons.

PearlGirl13 · #4 08-11-2013, 06:30 PM

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Instead of focusing on what their options are, some PNMs focus too much on what they no longer have. I sometimes think the hurt/rejection is stronger than the acceptance/we want you. I think it is normal but recruitment teaches young women that they have to adjust quickly and move on or get left behind. Life lessons.

This is great advice! The process doesn't allow for much time to regroup. At 6:00 in the morning you are dealt a disappointing blow and by 8:00 have to put on your best self for a pref party. That is hard to deal with...

God Bless the Gamma Chi that got my daughter turned around and back in the game!

Lovethesand · #5 08-11-2013, 08:29 PM

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This is great advice! The process doesn't allow for much time to regroup. At 6:00 in the morning you are dealt a disappointing blow and by 8:00 have to put on your best self for a pref party. That is hard to deal with...

God Bless the Gamma Chi that got my daughter turned around and back in the game!

Trust me I am completely aware of the morning disappointment followed by the "I love you, I'm sorry your hurt and sad....but now go out there and knock them dead". My Debbie had her own up and down moments and all you can do is balance the parental comfort and support with a gentle kick in the backside to get back out there.

ComradesTrue · #6 08-11-2013, 08:42 PM

I have heard that one of my rec girls has dropped out. Very disappointing.

Another rec girl has a definite favorite after pref, so hopefully tomorrow she will open her bid card to see that group's name. We shall see!

Titchou · #7 08-11-2013, 06:40 PM

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Originally Posted by ToujoursSK

Close friend's daughter had a full schedule all the way through, including her legacy house. But, to our great surprise legacy house released her after third round. I had never heard of that happening, nor had the mother, and although it was not her first choice, there were hurt feelings today that it was handled that way. It is not a house that traditionally has huge numbers of legacies coming through, so I am puzzled as to the thought process. Still, she went to prefs at 3 houses she liked very much, so hopefully all will end well.

Typically, that's when they have to release them or else put them on their bid list. Obviously, they gave her a really good look or she would have been released earlier - which would have made for worse hurt feelings, I would think. There's no good way or time to release a legacy.

thetalady · #8 08-12-2013, 08:02 PM

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Originally Posted by ToujoursSK

Close friend's daughter had a full schedule all the way through, including her legacy house. But, to our great surprise legacy house released her after third round. I had never heard of that happening, nor had the mother, and although it was not her first choice, there were hurt feelings today that it was handled that way. It is not a house that traditionally has huge numbers of legacies coming through, so I am puzzled as to the thought process. Still, she went to prefs at 3 houses she liked very much, so hopefully all will end well.

Any word on the outcome?