UGA 2013 Sorority Recruitment

[PearlGirl13]

Hugely disappointed daughter this morning. I'm trying hard to find the right things to say. She was only invited to two pref parties and more importantly did not get invited back to her "favorite". This is soooooo tough.

I'm wishing I had more conversations with her about considering the possibility of NOT pledging anywhere at all. We just both kept saying that we "trusted the process" - which btw, I still do, I'm just not sure if either of these two houses are the right ones for her and if the process is telling her that she would be better off not pledging.

[uga17mom]

Same thing happened to my daughter. Her two favorites are gone and she also is left with two. She said she will give them a chance. Her good friend got "the call" last night. I'm so sad for her.

[Katmandu]

Pref parties can change minds. This board is filled with stories of women who felt little or no connections with the chapters they were attending for pref, but found the longer party time, the more serious conversations and the realization that these women REALLY want you as part of their sisterhood....makes a huge difference.

And really, with chapter sizes of 250-300, is it really possible that the typical college girl will find ZERO connections there? Mostly it is hurt pride and raw emotions at play. If girls can push past that, they can be very happy, usually.

[SWTXBelle]

Originally Posted by PearlGirl13

Hugely disappointed daughter this morning. I'm trying hard to find the right things to say. She was only invited to two pref parties and more importantly did not get invited back to her "favorite". This is soooooo tough.

I'm wishing I had more conversations with her about considering the possibility of NOT pledging anywhere at all. We just both kept saying that we "trusted the process" - which btw, I still do, I'm just not sure if either of these two houses are the right ones for her and if the process is telling her that she would be better off not pledging.

Very, very rarely would a pnm be better off not pledging. Having been through dozens of recruitments I can authoritatively say the process is telling her "THESE TWO HOUSES REALLY WANT YOU. Open your heart and mind and see if you can't see yourself as a sister to these women who obviously see something in you that those who cut you did not."

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by PearlGirl13

Hugely disappointed daughter this morning. I'm trying hard to find the right things to say. She was only invited to two pref parties and more importantly did not get invited back to her "favorite". This is soooooo tough.

I'm wishing I had more conversations with her about considering the possibility of NOT pledging anywhere at all. We just both kept saying that we "trusted the process" - which btw, I still do, I'm just not sure if either of these two houses are the right ones for her and if the process is telling her that she would be better off not pledging.

I can understand your daughter feeling this way. Recruitment makes you exhausted and crazy. But why would you see not pledging as the better option? Did you know many sorority women who were unhappy that they joined?

My experience was that the women in all groups, even the ones who weren't wild about where they pledged at first, tended to be happy they were members.

[PearlGirl13]

Originally Posted by UGAalum94

I can understand your daughter feeling this way. Recruitment makes you exhausted and crazy. But why would you see not pledging as the better option? Did you know many sorority women who were unhappy that they joined?

My experience was that the women in all groups, even the ones who weren't wild about where they pledged at first, tended to be happy they were members.

I agree with you UGAalum. I think I wrote that at 6:35 this morning in the midst of a flurry of sad, confused, disappointed texts from my very tired and confused and disappointed daughter!

Coffee and a shower and some time to reflect make me very hopeful that she will pledge one of her two remaining choices and it will be the right place for her!

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by PearlGirl13

I agree with you UGAalum. I think I wrote that at 6:35 this morning in the midst of a flurry of sad, confused, disappointed texts from my very tired and confused and disappointed daughter!

Coffee and a shower and some time to reflect make me very hopeful that she will pledge one of her two remaining choices and it will be the right place for her!

Hang in there!