Paula Deen's use of the "N"-Word

[StealthMode]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

The documentary is about why most African-Americans have a social-psychological struggle with this.

I do want to see it because it is a subject that I want to incorporate into my research. It's incredibly intriguing and incredibly heartbreaking.

She used to hate her father because she has his skin complexion.

Unfortunately, a young man I once dated had a similar complex. His father (who abandoned him) was light skinned with gray eyes. He simultaneously was attracted to light skin (both in the women he dated and wishing he had it himself) and made borderline insulting comments about it, too. Of course, his resentment against light-skin had little to do with the skin and signified a deeper issue with his dad, but he came to associate dark skin with not being worth anything or worth keeping around. This was the same young man who said one of the things he loved best about me was my "good hair." I'm almost laughing remembering the look on his face. I'm sure he was expecting me to say "Thank you" rather than the...er....passionate...reaction I had.

ETA: StealthMode, they just showed the part of the documentary in which two Black men said they preferred darker Black women. One man said he wants his children to be darker like pharoahs and queens. Then he said "I'm being real ignorant right now" so he knew he was talking crazy. LOL.

So thaaaaaat's where the FB status originated.