Deflecting an inappropriate questions

[FSUZeta]

If could also mean what place the PNM is placed on the bid list. If the chapter knows they are her only choice, they might place her low because they think she is a shoe in. Same thing could happen if the PNM's other choices were chapters that were not as "popular" with the PNMs.

Let's turn the question around: Why would a chapter ask (or care for that matter) which other chapters a PNM was visiting for prefs.?

[clemsongirl]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

Let's turn the question around: Why would a chapter ask (or care for that matter) which other chapters a PNM was visiting for prefs.?

My best friend preffed two chapters, ABC and DEF. She was a legacy to ABC. When DEF found out that she was preffing ABC as well, they moved her down lower on their bid list even though she ranked DEF first and ABC second because they supposedly wanted to honor the fact that she was an ABC legacy, so she received a bid to ABC on Bid Day. I don't know exactly how true this story is, but she was obliquely told it by a member of DEF who's also a friend of both of us, so it could be true.

On the subject of awkward questions-what should I say when I'm asked what chapter I'm a legacy to? I know I'll be asked whether anyone in my family is Greek, and I don't want to lie and say no one is or that the chapter isn't on campus when it is, but I don't want to be cut just because other chapters assume I'll only want my legacy chapter when that isn't true.

My mom and I can't think of a good way to deflect that question without sounding evasive-any ideas?

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by clemsongirl

My best friend preffed two chapters, ABC and DEF. She was a legacy to ABC. When DEF found out that she was preffing ABC as well, they moved her down lower on their bid list even though she ranked DEF first and ABC second because they supposedly wanted to honor the fact that she was an ABC legacy, so she received a bid to ABC on Bid Day. I don't know exactly how true this story is, but she was obliquely told it by a member of DEF who's also a friend of both of us, so it could be true.

On the subject of awkward questions-what should I say when I'm asked what chapter I'm a legacy to? I know I'll be asked whether anyone in my family is Greek, and I don't want to lie and say no one is or that the chapter isn't on campus when it is, but I don't want to be cut just because other chapters assume I'll only want my legacy chapter when that isn't true.

My mom and I can't think of a good way to deflect that question without sounding evasive-any ideas?

If you don't list it, you won't necessarily be asked this question. Not every person that goes through recruitment is asked if she is a legacy.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

If could also mean what place the PNM is placed on the bid list. If the chapter knows they are her only choice, they might place her low because they think she is a shoe in. Same thing could happen if the PNM's other choices were chapters that were not as "popular" with the PNMs.

What? What could that possibly accomplish?