Deflecting an inappropriate questions

[DaffyKD]

Back in the olden days when I went through rush I had no idea there were inappropriate questions. No one in my family had been Greek while in school and neither had my friends, so I went into rush blind. I had no intentions of pledging-- only went through rush to move out of the house a week early since my mother and I were at each others throats.

I had been told by my mother who is a believer in all things rumored that I would not be able to pledge since there were no Jewish based houses on my campus at the time and no other house would take a Jewish girl. Since I had no intentions of pledging, I went into rush with a large Jewish star-- makes it easy to find an excuse to drop me.

Arrived at one of the houses for first day parties. This was about my 6th house of the day. Rusher and I took an instant dislike to each other for some unknown reason. While sitting there with "Miss Sorority, I am so fantastic", she asked me what "my daddy did for a living." I looked around the room and based on looks, stereotyped that every girl in that room was the daughter of a bank president, a doctor or a lawyer. I thought about my answer and decided that my non-bank president, doctor, lawyer dad needed to be something very special so I replied, "oh, he's the chief garbage collector for our town." Imagine her mouth falling to a non-existent basement. Then she looked at my star and said, "Ohhhhh, you're Jewish." The reply came back, "No, I'm Buddhist."

Guess which house never invited me back.

BTW, I only decided to stay in rush until the first house I went to decided to drop me. Imagine my surprise a zillion years later and I have still not been dropped by them.

DaffyKD

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Originally Posted by DaffyKD

Back in the olden days when I went through rush I had no idea there were inappropriate questions. No one in my family had been Greek while in school and neither had my friends, so I went into rush blind. I had no intentions of pledging-- only went through rush to move out of the house a week early since my mother and I were at each others throats.

I had been told by my mother who is a believer in all things rumored that I would not be able to pledge since there were no Jewish based houses on my campus at the time and no other house would take a Jewish girl. Since I had no intentions of pledging, I went into rush with a large Jewish star-- makes it easy to find an excuse to drop me.

Arrived at one of the houses for first day parties. This was about my 6th house of the day. Rusher and I took an instant dislike to each other for some unknown reason. While sitting there with "Miss Sorority, I am so fantastic", she asked me what "my daddy did for a living." I looked around the room and based on looks, stereotyped that every girl in that room was the daughter of a bank president, a doctor or a lawyer. I thought about my answer and decided that my non-bank president, doctor, lawyer dad needed to be something very special so I replied, "oh, he's the chief garbage collector for our town." Imagine her mouth falling to a non-existent basement. Then she looked at my star and said, "Ohhhhh, you're Jewish." The reply came back, "No, I'm Buddhist."

Guess which house never invited me back.

BTW, I only decided to stay in rush until the first house I went to decided to drop me. Imagine my surprise a zillion years later and I have still not been dropped by them.

DaffyKD

That is freakin hilarious! Chief garbage collector. LOL.

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I think a good way to deflect that question would be to respond with, "I love ABC and I'm thrilled to be at preference here today. I'd so much rather talk with you about YOUR sorority and your experiences. What has been your favorite sisterhood memory?" with a big smile and leaning forward to show interest.

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Originally Posted by FSUZeta

I was talking with a PNM and the question came up as to the most appropriate and gracious way to deflect an inappropriate question, such as "What other pref. parties will you be attending?" What say you?

I was asked this question and definitely didn't answer it well. Looking back saying something like "I have/had a few (another) party later/earlier but I'm really excited to be back at ABC. I have really enjoyed my week here." Then lead into something like "I love the sisterhood y'all show" "I'm glad academics is so important to you" "Your philanthropy is so important and I love your fundraising activity"
another way to go is to say "Pref is such an important night and I'm so glad to be back here. I'm really excited to see the ceremony/I loved the ceremony. What was your favorite part of recruitment?"

Originally Posted by DaffyKD

Back in the olden days when I went through rush I had no idea there were inappropriate questions. No one in my family had been Greek while in school and neither had my friends, so I went into rush blind. I had no intentions of pledging-- only went through rush to move out of the house a week early since my mother and I were at each others throats.

I had been told by my mother who is a believer in all things rumored that I would not be able to pledge since there were no Jewish based houses on my campus at the time and no other house would take a Jewish girl. Since I had no intentions of pledging, I went into rush with a large Jewish star-- makes it easy to find an excuse to drop me.

Arrived at one of the houses for first day parties. This was about my 6th house of the day. Rusher and I took an instant dislike to each other for some unknown reason. While sitting there with "Miss Sorority, I am so fantastic", she asked me what "my daddy did for a living." I looked around the room and based on looks, stereotyped that every girl in that room was the daughter of a bank president, a doctor or a lawyer. I thought about my answer and decided that my non-bank president, doctor, lawyer dad needed to be something very special so I replied, "oh, he's the chief garbage collector for our town." Imagine her mouth falling to a non-existent basement. Then she looked at my star and said, "Ohhhhh, you're Jewish." The reply came back, "No, I'm Buddhist."

Guess which house never invited me back.

BTW, I only decided to stay in rush until the first house I went to decided to drop me. Imagine my surprise a zillion years later and I have still not been dropped by them.

DaffyKD

Sister, I love you. Glad you stuck through it.