"I'm rushing 'for' a certain chapter"

[pshsx1]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

Fraternity rush is COMPLETELY different. Completely. Announcing you were only interested in one fraternity is not on a par with announcing you are only interested in certain sororities. As you point out, you were able to participate in a far more informal and unstructured recruitment. The way sorority recruitment works punishes pnms who are ignorant or foolish in a way fraternity recruitment does not.

FWIW, I know that fraternity recruitment is way different than formal sorority recruitment. Keep in mind, though, there are plenty of schools, like my own, where formal recruitment does not exist which is why I still use the term "Rush." Also, a random PNM who stumbled on this board may have absolutely no idea that there is a difference.

Also, to elaborate, I told an NPHC org that I was rushing SigEp. So, had I not gotten a bid from SPE, I instantly ruined some of my chances.

But nonetheless, my post was not at all in regards to how mush "easier" or different fraternity recruitment is or anything along those lines. I was just pointing out that the posts calling PNMs stupid were uncalled for. Ignorant? Sure.

Originally Posted by Sen's Revenge

Your point, which was not lost on me, is that sometimes people just don't know. That doesn't make them stupid.

You point was anywhere near about the differences between fraternity and sorority recruitment because you already stated that what you said and did was taboo on your campus.

People read what they feel like reading. smh

Thank you.

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Can we also all think for a minute how many of us on GC didn't EVER plan on going Greek? Or how many people didn't even know about Greek Life? And how many people don't have Greeks in their families?

That's how PNMs make "dumb" mistakes. I promise you, a lot of girls (and guys) just don't know.

[WCsweet<3]

Originally Posted by pshsx1

Can we also all think for a minute how many of us on GC didn't EVER plan on going Greek? Or how many people didn't even know about Greek Life? And how many people don't have Greeks in their families?

That's how PNMs make "dumb" mistakes. I promise you, a lot of girls (and guys) just don't know.

Part of it is common sense. I came from a background of very little information about sororities and recruitment in general. The only greeks in my family had passed away before I was ten and I didn't know they were greek. I didn't understand how recruitment worked. My first recruitment was deferred so I had seen some sorority women around campus and knew groups I was partial to or was less interested in. However, I didn't blast that around. I even had both a facebook and myspace to blast it, but didn't. I don't think my friends did either, at least they didn't do it in front of me. They could have said things I suppose.
It just seems obvious to me, even though I come from that background.

[Old_Row]

Well I think most of them are stupid because they know better than to tell sorority members directly to their faces during recruitment but still put it all over Facebook and twitter and tumblr like no one else is watching and the sorority members will never know.

A PNM from the other side of the USA has no idea where she will fit in before she gets there except based on dumb gossip on the Internet. If you go to a nearby school and know a lot of members in houses then you may have an idea of where you might fit in best but that's a totally different situation. PNMs in all situations need to not be all up on the Internet or talking to people in real life about the only houses they want because things can go very wrong and it is also rude to all the houses! We have eyes and ears and we find out what you are doing and that can end up not very pretty for your recruitment!!!!!

[adpiucf]

Originally Posted by Old_Row

We have eyes and ears and we find out what you are doing and that can end up not very pretty for your recruitment!!!!!

More and more, sororities sound like the mafia: "From the outside looking in, you can't understand it. And from the inside looking out, you can't explain it.

[MaryPoppins]

Originally Posted by adpiucf

More and more, sororities sound like the mafia: "From the outside looking in, you can't understand it. And from the inside looking out, you can't explain it.

omerta
a code of silence practiced by the Mafia; a refusal to give evidence [to the police about criminal activities.]

[SWTXBelle]

Originally Posted by pshsx1

FWIW, I know that fraternity recruitment is way different than formal sorority recruitment. Keep in mind, though, there are plenty of schools, like my own, where formal recruitment does not exist which is why I still use the term "Rush." Also, a random PNM who stumbled on this board may have absolutely no idea that there is a difference.

Also, to elaborate, I told an NPHC org that I was rushing SigEp. So, had I not gotten a bid from SPE, I instantly ruined some of my chances.

But nonetheless, my post was not at all in regards to how mush "easier" or different fraternity recruitment is or anything along those lines. I was just pointing out that the posts calling PNMs stupid were uncalled for. Ignorant? Sure.

How much knowledge does it take to know that there is nothing to be gained by being rude and insulting, which is what announcing you are not interested in a group which is hosting you for an event, formal or informal, is?

[pshsx1]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

How much knowledge does it take to know that there is nothing to be gained by being rude and insulting, which is what announcing you are not interested in a group which is hosting you for an event, formal or informal, is?

Because when you're offered a job you don't want, you can turn it down and say that you're interested in another position.

Or if a friend invites you over to their house, you can tell them you can't come over because you're going to dinner with your sister.

Because, in high school, if you're invited to join a club or a group, it's not considered insulting to tell them that you don't want to join them because of *insert reason here*.

I'm not attempting to argue that it's proper Rush etiquette. I am just trying to point out, though, that sometimes people make mistakes due to ignorance. There's no need to call any girl stupid.