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Originally Posted by CircleofLife
My university is going through the colonization process. I had looked into sorotrities before, but hadn't found one I thought was a good fit for me and didn't honestly have the time. But this organization came to campus and I did my research and really thought it was a good fit for me.
Now, I'm a senior graduating in May. I chose to join the sorority. I have loved it, but the more I think about it, the more I'm questioning if it's the right choice for me.
Dues are $325. This cost is manageable, but I have a lot of costs coming up with grad school and the like and to pay the $325 is going to be rough. My grad school of choice requires a $400 deposit (much more than the $200-$250 I was expecting). I'm only going to be a fully initiated member for maybe a week before I turn around and become an alumnae member.
I'll never get to have a little, or be a big. I won't get to help set up a lot of traditions in just one semester. I won't get to participate in recruitment or bids. None of that. I was told I wasn't allowed to hold an officer position, so that's disheartening as well. I feel like I'm very invested, but I'm not sure if all of it is worth it when I'm more sad about leaving so soon instead of being excited to be a part of this.
We're about half-way through out new member process. It's going fine, but I feel disconnected to know that I'm leaving in just 2 months. I only have 3 months to make these strong bonds with my sisters and my organization, before I go off and graduation. And none of my potential grad schools have chapters there either.
So I guess...I'm debating if I should continue. Am I really contributing anything (besides money) to our first semester on campus? I can't be an officer. I'm leaving in May. I was really excited at first. I wanted to be a part of the founding class and start something amazing on campus. And so far, we've already done great things. But it makes me more sad now than anything. I still love the organization and the women, but I feel like to only do it for 3 months may not have been my wisest choice.
I'm just a bit lost, since I know most seniors don't join their last semester. I was just hoping for a bit of advice/guidance. I'd really appreciate it.
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Didn't you know pretty much ALL of this prior to pledging your chapter?? You knew you were leaving at the end of the semester. You should have realized without even being told that you did not have time to have a little, be an officer, start traditions in your chapter, etc.
Being a founding member of a GLO chapter is a special honor given to few. I would hate to see you throw it away. You CAN be an active alum later and that time of sorority life can be just as important.
Think about moving to a new city where you know NO ONE... but you already have sisters there who will reach out to support you.
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