Asking girls if they want to COB, without coming on too strong?

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Originally Posted by tld221

NPHC swerve:

Most of our UG membership is invited to membership as upperclassmen, which ideally cuts out that "all my friends are my sisters/Sorors" feeling. Most NPHC Greeks are also involved in a bunch of stuff as upperclassmen before membership as well-you just balance it out.

With respect to COB/R... Ill only speak for Sigma, but it's rare that a woman, interested or not, is going to feel "rushed." Introducing you (or getting you acquainted) is going to be personal and direct, but from the beginning Im aiming to earn your friendship first.

I compare it to the difference between (lord am I dating myself) being a contestant on Singled Out or The Bachelor (hell even Flavor of Love) and navigating the dating world on your own (courting and building a relationship, them mutually deciding what's best).

Even for the NPHC orgs that have larger pools of candidates showing interest...like COB, those candidates would've had at least one opportunity to connect with a member one on one. I highly doubt an interest shows up to one of our rushes not having make a connection with a member or introducing themselves for the first time to everyone.*

But...I'm just telling you what you may already know.

*of course varies by campus, region and org.

They need to bring back Singled Out.

That is all.