Asking girls if they want to COB, without coming on too strong?

LouisaMay · #1 03-20-2013, 07:16 AM

When I was a sophomore (after having a disappointing rush experience as a freshman), a friend that I got to know from the college choir approached me about COB after choir practice, but I didn't even realize that it was COB. She just said, "My sorority is making s'mores in our dorm tomorrow night. Could I come pick you up? It will be fun." That was it! She came to my dorm and walked me over. We had a great time! It was totally low key and didn't feel like I was being "recruited" at all.

Titchou · #2 03-20-2013, 08:15 AM

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Originally Posted by LouisaMay

When I was a sophomore (after having a disappointing rush experience as a freshman), a friend that I got to know from the college choir approached me about COB after choir practice, but I didn't even realize that it was COB. She just said, "My sorority is making s'mores in our dorm tomorrow night. Could I come pick you up? It will be fun." That was it! She came to my dorm and walked me over. We had a great time! It was totally low key and didn't feel like I was being "recruited" at all.

THIS is the way you do it.

exlurker · #3 03-21-2013, 06:30 PM

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Originally Posted by LouisaMay

When I was a sophomore (after having a disappointing rush experience as a freshman), a friend that I got to know from the college choir approached me about COB after choir practice, but I didn't even realize that it was COB. She just said, "My sorority is making s'mores in our dorm tomorrow night. Could I come pick you up? It will be fun." That was it! She came to my dorm and walked me over. We had a great time! It was totally low key and didn't feel like I was being "recruited" at all.

I didn't even realize that it was COB. She just said, "My sorority is making s'mores in our dorm tomorrow night. Could I come pick you up? It will be fun." That was it! She came to my dorm and walked me over.

Excellent (IMHO) ! That way the woman being COB'd didn't have to find the sorority dorm on her own, and didn't have to worry about "making an entrance" on her own, either.

FSUZeta · #4 03-21-2013, 06:53 PM

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Originally Posted by exlurker

I didn't even realize that it was COB. She just said, "My sorority is making s'mores in our dorm tomorrow night. Could I come pick you up? It will be fun." That was it! She came to my dorm and walked me over.

Excellent (IMHO) ! That way the woman being COB'd didn't have to find the sorority dorm on her own, and didn't have to worry about "making an entrance" on her own, either.

This is so important. When I was advising a colony that was doing some COB, I stressed that someone ALWAYS pick up the guest AND take her back to her dorm/apartment. No need to make them start out feeling awkward by arriving at an event by herself! Plus you can use the time in transport to create a bond with the girl and put her at ease.

ASTalumna06 · #5 03-22-2013, 12:28 AM

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Originally Posted by FSUZeta

This is so important. When I was advising a colony that was doing some COB, I stressed that someone ALWAYS pick up the guest AND take her back to her dorm/apartment. No need to make them start out feeling awkward by arriving at an event by herself! Plus you can use the time in transport to create a bond with the girl and put her at ease.

This is how I was recruited! I probably never would have gone on my own. Having a sister invite me and then meet me at my dorm to take me to my first event was essentially what got me there. From then on, I kept going and never looked back.