If you've exhausted your other avenues, it may be time get familiar with the Detroit Area Alumnae Panhellenic. They have a lovely scholarship tea in April, in St. Clair Shores, but it is the same day as IRD
They have a Facebook and a web page, although I think the Facebook is more up to date:
https://www.facebook.com/DetroitAlum...nicAssociation
https://sites.google.com/site/detroi...icorg/calendar
Unfortunately, a lot of sororities don't have representation in DAPA though. The ones with a * don't have representation:
Pi Beta Phi*, Kappa Alpha Theta *, Kappa Kappa Gamma, Alpha Phi, Delta Gamma, Gamma Phi Beta *, Alpha Chi Omega: 1903*, Delta Delta Delta:1902 *, Alpha Xi Delta: 1904, Chi Omega: 1903 *, Sigma Kappa: 1905, Alpha Omicron Pi: 1905, Zeta Tau Alpha: 1909, Alpha Gamma Delta: 1909,
Alpha Delta Pi: 1909*, Delta Zeta: 1910, Phi Mu: 1911, Kappa Delta: 1912, Sigma Sigma Sigma: 1951, Alpha Sigma Tau: 1951, Alpha Sigma Alpha: 1951, Alpha Epsilon Phi: 1951 *, Theta Phi Alpha: 1951, Phi Sigma Sigma: 1951, Delta Phi Epsilon: 1951 *, Sigma Delta Tau, 1951 *
You might have better luck with Chicago-
http://www.cnwsap.org/
They are missing some of the same groups though:
Alpha Epsilon Phi Sigma Delta Tau
Alpha Sigma Tau Chi Omega
Theta Phi Alpha Phi Sigma Sigma
Delta Phi Epsilon Phi Mu
Kappa Delta
They do have info about getting recs for represented groups though.
We have some women involved in Alumnae Panhellenic in our Chicago alumnae groups that are in my Area. I'll get some contact information for you.