Leaving a Colony

[Kevin]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Holy passive aggressive, Batman. Depending on how far along he is, his "pledging" may not have entailed any promises he should flagellate himself about breaking.

That's not what being in a colony is like. I can't recall whether you helped found your chapter. If not, it's a very different experience from rushing an established group. Unless he was sold a bill of goods, and I doubt that, he knew joining a colony wasn't the same as joining an established group. Yes, honoring ones commitments is a sign of character.

Would you say the same thing to any other guy who was pledging a fraternity, realized it was a bad fit, and dropped out and pledged another group?

I don't consider it remotely the same thing. If you're a founding member, you have the ability to determine the culture of your organization. You go in knowing what kind of a commitment it is and realizing you're not going to be initiated next semester and have the traditional experience.

My first experiences with my own chapter, which I am a founding member of, were not positive. I didn't have any really close friends, I didn't hang out with anyone outside of chapter events and aside from being elected to a lot of leadership positions, I was never hugely popular.

Now, I'm chapter adviser, have a good relationship with just about everyone with a badge number, dedicate a large chunk of my time to the continued success of our chapter and find it extremely rewarding. I had every opportunity to join an established group and have a great 4 years of membership. I decided to forego that experience for something I think has been much more rewarding in the long term and haven't ever regretted it.

[ibis]

I wonder if this colony is affiliated with a larger or smaller national?

But, I also wonder why you joined it in the first place?

While it may not become a chartered group before you leave, to build something will be a proud thing to remember all of your life.

Will you give up on this now, what will you do after college with other choices in life? Will they be given up if you don't like what you see?

Show some guts, help make this colony grow, stick with it!

[adpiucf]

For the love of Pete! Quit crucifying the OP. If he wants to leave a colony, that's his choice. There is nothing wrong wtih preferring an established chapter over a colony. They're both great experiences, but everyone wants something different.

OP hasn't posted in a while and his question wasn't "Should I stay in my colony?" Rather, it was "If I leave, can I pledge somewhere else?" That question has been answered. Leave the guy alone. I'm pretty sure he is capable of making his own choices. It's not a question of having "guts" or "the great contacts you'll have 20 years from now." It's what he wants out of his college experience RIGHT NOW. It doesn't matter if you join a colony or a chapter; there's plenty to be proud of in either situation.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Kevin

That's not what being in a colony is like.

I don't consider it remotely the same thing.

I just don't get this. Yes, it's going to be a lot of work AND opportunities that an established chapter doesn't have...but would you really want someone to stay in a colony whose heart wasn't in it? I should think that would be the fastest way to sink a new group from the word go.

And unless men are initiated before the colony is chartered I don't see why it's not remotely the same thing as joining an established group.

As far as everyone knowing what the score is and that it isn't going to be all super happy fun time right away...in other words if you're saying that every fraternity colonizing situation, for every group, is as fully informed as yours apparently was...you've been eating too much of this, my boy.