Advice on rushing again?

[adpiucf]

First, no sorority "requires" recs. Further, any alumnae recommenders will submit recs to the sorority itself. That is par for the course, and you would learn that if you took the time to research recruitment. So it's not that there isn't anywhere to send them. There is a place to send them. Nor is it a matter of them not being required. It's that you have made it clear you're not getting recs and that is fine. You don't have to and it won't likely affect you at your school and in your situation. However, you're not in a sorority, so you really can't say that recs are this or that for any of the sororities at your school or where they should be sent. You can simply choose whether or not to get them. You've opted not to. It will probably be fine at your campus and with informal recruitment.

Yes, get good grades, pad your resume, get to know Greeks, and don't embarrass yourself socially. We can't tell you your "chances," but this is general advice we give to EVERY PNM to go into recruitment with top grades and activities, and a clean reputation.

[Hartofsec]

Originally Posted by adpiucf

First, no sorority "requires" recs.

That was probably my error -- she may have said that since I used "require" in my earlier post. Sorry!

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by adpiucf

First, no sorority "requires" recs. Further, any alumnae recommenders will submit recs to the sorority itself. That is par for the course, and you would learn that if you took the time to research recruitment.

This is my point - there are places where recruitment simply isn't "researched." Even now that my campus does formal recruitment, there is information about what to wear, the rounds, but that's about it. And all of this info is given to the PNMs when they show up to the first night of recruitment. I'd wager that about 90% of the students that are part of Greek life on my campus never saw themselves joining a fraternity or sorority before arriving at school. They don't plan months in advance.

It's just not the same everywhere.

We don't know the OP's campus, and therefore, we can't really judge her based on what she's saying regarding recs.

[tapuz]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

Even now that my campus does formal recruitment, there is information about what to wear, the rounds, but that's about it. And all of this info is given to the PNMs when they show up to the first night of recruitment. I'd wager that about 90% of the students that are part of Greek life on my campus never saw themselves joining a fraternity or sorority before arriving at school. They don't plan months in advance.

That's basically what it's like at my school, many of the sisters I met during recruitment said that they didn't come to college expecting to join a sorority.

Also, my parents moved to the US from a different country, so none of their friends that live here have been part of Greek life. While it is possible maybe some of my neighbors/teachers may have been, I live in the North east..so I don't think it's as common as it may be to know alumnae in southern states with more of a Greek influence.