Daughter is a legacy and was cut

[gee_ess]

I'll just add that I think it would be helpful to have given some clear and honest thought to why your daughter did not do well in formal. Was she from out of state? Did she not have recs? Was the general scoop on her that she ONLY wanted to be an XYZ? How was her GPA? Has she made friends with girls in the various houses who might be pulling for her next year?

As mentioned in earlier posts, if she has vastly improved whatever contributed to her results last time, this can make a difference. But only you and your daughter can truly know that.

I agree with 33girl. If she has friends in a specific group and they are asking her to look at their group, then that is a positive sign.

In the end, you have to ask her if her goal is to be Greek - to have a sisterhood, to make memories, to benefit from a lifetime of associations with her sisters. OR does she only want to be an XYZ because that might not be possible.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by gee_ess

I'll just add that I think it would be helpful to have given some clear and honest thought to why your daughter did not do well in formal.

A full schedule of pref invites is a far cry from "did not do well". Your advice is better-geared, I think, towards someone who legitimately had no options. The OP's daughter clearly had options, she just chose not to pursue them.

[drgnlady]

Three houses for pref at UNC is a successful recruitment. Also, while the sophomore quota does seem to place more sophomores in each pledge class, your daughter will not be a "clean slate" pnm. All freshman at UNC come in with fabulous grade points. This is not true of sophomores. And the girls do remember who they cut year to year. If this were my daughter, I would strongly recommend that she become very active on campus and keep her grade point way up if she wanted to attempt a second formal recruitment.