Why do some parents let their kids drop out?

[adpiucf]

The question isn't why do some parents let their kid drop out of college after a failed recruitment. An 18 year old can do whatever they want. An 18 year old is an adult. The parent can't do anything to stop their kid from dropping out of college for any reason.

The question is why parents enable their children once they have made these choices and continue to support their lifestyle and pay their bills, rather than helping them by talking about it, going to therapy if necessary, helping them to understand that life is full of disappointments and how to work through them.

There are many parents who fail to take into account that part of their responsibility as a parent is to raise a productive member of society with mature coping skills. Parents should be emotionally supportive if their adult children suffer a minor disappointment like not getting their choice sorority bid, but they shouldn't enable those children to the point where they don't learn to deal with the consequences. It is just going to end badly when something truly catastrophic happens in their lives, mommy isn't around anymore, and they are left completely unable to function.

So, if you're asking "why," the answer is poor parenting.

[gracemom]

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[BadCat25]

They drop out because some 18 year old girls do not handle public in your face social rejection very well.

[TNAuburnMom]

I think this quote from adpiucf is my favorite comment ever on any discussion board.

"There are many parents who fail to take into account that part of their responsibility as a parent is to raise a productive member of society with mature coping skills."

[peppermint23]

Originally Posted by adpiucf

The question isn't why do some parents let their kid drop out of college after a failed recruitment. An 18 year old can do whatever they want. An 18 year old is an adult. The parent can't do anything to stop their kid from dropping out of college for any reason.

The question is why parents enable their children once they have made these choices and continue to support their lifestyle and pay their bills, rather than helping them by talking about it, going to therapy if necessary, helping them to understand that life is full of disappointments and how to work through them.

There are many parents who fail to take into account that part of their responsibility as a parent is to raise a productive member of society with mature coping skills. Parents should be emotionally supportive if their adult children suffer a minor disappointment like not getting their choice sorority bid, but they shouldn't enable those children to the point where they don't learn to deal with the consequences. It is just going to end badly when something truly catastrophic happens in their lives, mommy isn't around anymore, and they are left completely unable to function.

So, if you're asking "why," the answer is poor parenting.

I don't think everyone that drops out of recruitment is necessarily immature or was poorly parented, though.

[WhiteRose1912]

Originally Posted by peppermint23

I don't think everyone that drops out of recruitment is necessarily immature or was poorly parented, though.

No one's talking about dropping out of recruitment. They're talking about dropping out of school because of a poor recruitment.

[ElvisLover]

If you know four who have dropped, would you be able to re-contact Greek Life Office to take one of their places? I personally wouldn't allow my children to drop out of school due to a less-than-desirable rush outcome. Too bad for those girls...they should have given their sorority a chance and gotten to know their chapter. After all of the newness and rawness of rush wears off, usually everyone ends up being happy with a new group of friends within their sorority.

[peppermint23]

Originally Posted by WhiteRose1912

No one's talking about dropping out of recruitment. They're talking about dropping out of school because of a poor recruitment.

Oooooh my bad haha